In this powerful episode of Reframe This, licensed therapist Matt and his wife and co-host Corinna unpack how healthy conflict, emotional safety, and clear boundaries can transform our relationships and improve our mental health. Building on last week’s discussion of avoided and lingering conflict, they move one step deeper—into what it actually looks like to resolve conflict with intention, curiosity, and care.With vulnerability and humor, Matt and Corinna share how easy it is for unspoken expectations, emotional overwhelm, and differing communication styles to create unnecessary tension. But instead of seeing conflict as a threat, they show how reframing it as a pathway to deeper connection can strengthen trust, empathy, and partnership.🧠 Key Topics & Takeaways✔️ The internal locus of control — why focusing on our own emotions and reactions leads to healthier conflict resolution.✔️ Boundaries as emotional safety — how internal and spoken boundaries protect peace and prevent resentment.✔️ How unspoken expectations create resentment — and why mind reading and “you should know” thinking harm relationships.✔️ The role of humility in conflict — being right fuels pride, but understanding fuels connection.✔️ Showing love during conflict — choosing calm engagement, validating emotions, and staying curious.✔️ The danger and usefulness of the “why” — how to share your reasoning without sounding defensive or dismissive.✔️ Team-oriented communication — shifting from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.”✔️ Regulating the emotional ladder — why no conflict is resolved from a heightened emotional state.✔️ Practical tools for conflict resolution:💡 Reframe of the Week“Conflict isn’t the problem — disconnection is. Being right doesn’t bring peace; it brings pride. Healthy conflict, handled with grace and boundaries, strengthens relationships.”🕊️ Spiritual Reflection1 Corinthians 13:5 — Love is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs.Healthy conflict means addressing this issue, not weaponizing past ones.Romans 12:18 — “As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”Peace isn’t passivity—it’s choosing grace, honesty, and emotional responsibility.If this episode highlighted areas you’d like to grow in or unpack more deeply, consider speaking with a licensed therapist. You can search for a provider through Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory.Resource Links:Internal vs. External Locus of ControlBoundaries

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