"Have you ever felt like you’re just not good enough—like no matter how hard you try, it never feels like it’s enough? Today, we’re unpacking the heavy feeling of inadequacy and learning how to reclaim your self-worth."Here is what you will take away from this episode:You will understand the root of inadequacy and how it impacts relationshipsYou will identify and challenge the Inner critic within yourselfYou will receive validation and inspiration So lets start off by identifying real life scenarios in which inadequacy shows upThe Overwhelmed Young MomScenario: You’re a young mother who feels like your failing as a parent. You see other moms on social media managing their homes perfectly, homeschooling their kids, and still having time for self-care. Meanwhile, you struggle just to get through the day without losing your cool. When your child’s teacher comes to you with a complaint, you feel ashamed, believing it’s your fault for not being a better mother. The exhaustion and self-doubt make you withdraw from friends, convinced they would judge you if they knew how much you were struggling.The High-Achieving but Insecure ProfessionalScenario: You are a 35-year-old marketing manager, who has climbed the corporate ladder quickly, but constantly feels like a fraud. Despite your accomplishments, your terrified that one day your boss will realize that you are not as smart or capable as people think. You overwork yourself, stay late and take on extra projects to prove your worth. When you receive constructive criticism, even minor feedback, you spiral into self-doubt, questioning whether you truly belong in this position.The Overcommitted HelperScenario: You say yes to everything—helping at your kids' school, volunteering at church, taking on extra work projects, and always being the friend who’s available to listen. You thrive on being needed because it makes you feel important and valued. But deep down, your exhausted.You rarely have time for yourself, yet the idea of saying no fills you with guilt—what if people think you’re selfish? What if they stop relying on you? You keep pushing through, even when you are approaching burnout. When you finally break down in tears from the overwhelming pressure, you feel ashamed, believing you should be strong enough to handle it all.Understanding the Core of InadequacyInadequacy is more than just self-doubt—it’s the emotionally painful feeling that who you are or what you do isn’t good enough. This belief doesn’t just appear out of nowhere. It’s often a result of negative self-evaluations, whether shaped by past experiences, societal expectations, or a relentless inner critic.What makes inadequacy so challenging is that it feels real, even if it isn’t grounded in fact. For example:A young professional might feel inadequate at work, convinced they’re not as talented as their peers—even when their boss praises their contributions.A parent might believe they’re failing their children because they’re not living up to some idealized version of what a "perfect parent" should be.Someone navigating relationships might feel they aren’t lovable or worthy of connection, even when their loved ones actively express appreciation and care.The hallmark of inadequacy is that it’s not just about what’s true—it’s about what feels true. These persistent, painful beliefs create a narrative of inferiority that shapes how people see themselves and interact with the world.For many, inadequacy can be tied to specific areas of life such as appearance, career choices, relationships, and parenting. What’s important to recognize is that inadequacy thrives on comparison—whether to others, to societal norms, or even to our past selves. And often, these comparisons aren’t fair or realistic.Have you ever found yourself questioning your worth because you haven’t accomplished everything you wanted to by a specific age? For example, earned a degree, purchased a home, traveled outside of the country, married the love of your life, had children, and so on and so fourth. That feeling of measuring your worth by a checklist of accomplishments is so real. Society sets these invisible deadlines—be married by 30, own a home by 35, have your career figured out by 40—and when life doesn’t unfold that way, it’s easy to feel like you’re behind or that you’ve failed. But the truth is, your worth has never been tied to those milestones.Your journey is yours—not anyone else’s. The absence of a degree, a home, a spouse, or travel experiences does not mean the absence of purpose, value, or impact. You are still becoming, still growing, still worthy. Life doesn’t have an expiration date for joy, success, or love. It’s okay to take a different path. It’s okay to start late. It’s okay to redefine what fulfillment looks like for you.

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