When you love someone with relational trauma—someone who's been abandoned, betrayed, or emotionally neglected—it can feel like you're always walking a tightrope. You're trying to be patient, consistent, and safe… but sometimes, no matter what you do, it still feels like you're being punished for pain you didn’t cause.In this episode of Coupled With, Dr. Rachel Orleck breaks down the hidden dynamics that trauma brings into a relationship—how protectors clash, why emotional shutdowns create disconnect, and what happens when love gets tangled up with survival strategies. This episode speaks directly to the partners trying to love someone through trauma without losing themselves in the process.You’ll walk away with powerful insights, practical tools, and a new sense of hope for creating a relationship where bothpeople feel seen, safe, and wanted.Whether you're the partner who's been hurt—or the one trying to reach them—this episode is for you.🛠️ What You’ll Learn:What relational trauma actually is (and how it subtly shows up in your relationship)The trauma cycle that keeps both partners stuck—and how to spot itThe emotional toll of being the “strong one” in the relationshipHow to offer compassion without becoming your partner’s emotional airbagTiny shifts that foster safety and connection (without self-erasure)Scripts and regulation tips you can use in the momentWhy consistency—not perfection—is what actually builds trust💌 Resources Mentioned:🎁 Free 7-Day Course — Break the Cycle: 7 Days to Stop the Same Fight and Rebuild ConnectionGet daily insights and doable practices to shift the cycle and reconnect.👉 www.drrachelorleck.com🔁 Next Episode Preview:Next week, we flip the lens.If you’re the one with relational trauma—if closeness feels dangerous, if you pull away when you most want to lean in, if you’re tired of feeling ashamed for how you show up—you don’t want to miss this. I’ll be talking directly to you: no shame, just truth, compassion, and small steps back into connection without losing yourself.🙌 Connect + Share:If this episode resonated, please subscribe and leave a review—it helps the show reach more people who need it.And if you’re feeling brave, send this episode to your partner. Not as a weapon, but as an invitation.“This made me feel seen. I’d love for you to hear it too.”💻 Let’s Stay Connected:✨ Website: www.drrachelorleck.com✨ Instagram: @drrachelorleck

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