If a quick “I’m sorry” could fix everything, relationships would be easy. But when the same rupture happens again—and again—the words start to lose their weight. In this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleck unpacks why repeated apologies without consistent change create nervous system burnout, how this cycle erodes trust, and what your body actually needs before it can believe safety is real again.You’ll learn why good intentions and genuine remorse aren’t enough to rebuild security, how stress pulls us back toward old patterns, and what real repair sounds and feels like when it finally starts to land. Rachel also shares her three R’s of real repair—Recognize, Reflect, and Repeat Differently—a simple framework for interrupting empty apologies and rebuilding connection through action instead of promises.If you’ve ever thought, “They mean it, but nothing changes,” this episode will help you understand why—and what true repair looks like in practice.Key Topics CoveredWhy “I’m sorry” starts to feel hollow over timeHow repeated apologies create nervous system fatigueThe difference between good intentions and embodied changeWhy your body stops believing promises without consistencyHow to rebuild safety through small, repeatable actionsThe 3 R’s of real repair: Recognize, Reflect, Repeat DifferentlyResources:If you're in WA state and want to connect with Dr. Rachel in her therapy practice: www.northseattlecouplescounseling.comFree 7 Day Email Course: Break the Cycle of Conflict: www.drrachelorleck.com

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