You love your partner, but lately, it feels like you’re just co-managing a life together. The spark that used to feel effortless now feels buried under exhaustion, logistics, and “just getting through the week.” In this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleckunpacks what really causes the shift from lovers to roommates — and why it’s not proof that love has faded, but that your nervous system has been in survival mode for too long.Rachel explains how stress, routine, and emotional disconnection suppress desire, why “trying harder” doesn’t reignite chemistry, and how safety — not effort — brings your body back online. Learn how to start reconnecting through small, nervous-system-safe acts of curiosity using her 2% Braver approach, and why desire doesn’t die… it just hides until it feels safe to reemerge.If you’ve ever looked at your partner and wondered where the spark went, this episode will help you see that it’s still there — waiting for both of you to exhale and reach again.Key Topics CoveredThe real reason attraction fades in long-term relationshipsWhy stress, survival, and exhaustion shut down desireThe difference between spontaneous and responsive arousalWhy safety — not spontaneity — is the foundation of intimacyThe “2% Braver” method for rebuilding safety and desireHow micro-moments of presence reignite connectionResources:Free Download: Break the Cycle- A Self-Paced Guide to Stop Reacting and Start ReconnectingWA Residents: Want help working on your relationship? Contact Dr. Rachel in her private practice - www.meaningfuljourneycounseling.com

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