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Listen "#4: Niklas Wilkens (SO/SP 2w3 269) — The Inner Hope Machine, Power Tripping as "Super Jesus," and Seeing Through Ego Pride"
Episode Synopsis
Niklas Wilkens is a humanistic depth psychologist practicing in Germany, and he’s been working with the Enneagram for 14 years, although only 2 years ago realized that he was an Enneagram 2. Niklas honestly blew me away with his very personal and high resolution description of his 2-ness (despite mistyping as a 5 for 11 years!). We get into why 2 is a rejection type, the "inner hope machine," why 2s can come across as creepy, and what it took for him to start really seeing himself. Really (really) good stuff.
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Time stamps
0:00 Intro, Type 2 Pride & Humility
1:48 Object Relations Intro
3:49 Meet Niklas, his mistyping journey, & landing on 2
9:30 How mistyping changes the value you see in the enneagram
14:02 Discovering 2, can’t delude myself I’m coming from a purely selfless place
17:20 2 as rejection type; hopelessness and the “hope machine”
27:50 When someone tries to love me…
32:10 When the image “shatters” and the most sensitive part of you is exposed
37:40 The autonomous heart beneath self-image
38:22 Type 2 Trouble with Birthdays
41:08 Being a Type 2 therapist, gifts and liabilities; the nourishment of mattering to someone
47:45 Have to watch using clients as evidence for my hope machine
51:25 Delusions of being “Super Jesus”; addiction to loving others; not seeing contradiction in my “selflessness” and my indignation that others don’t reciprocate
55:33 On being truly loved, when people really do see me
56:10 My path to ego transparency; phase of NVC militancy (ha!); therapy & becoming a therapist
1:04:08 The Vigilance of image types, flow state when we lose sight of the image
1:08:00 - The image specificity of 2 vs adaptability of 3
1:10:45 Aspects of Therapy that conflict with my 2 image (e.g. money, taking clinical notes)
1:14:00 Being a 2 Therapist in the wild - withdrawing when ppl don’t want to go deep, and accidentally imposing, sensing for receptivity
1:17:58 2s are “honest” when they only see loving motivation — it’s all they can see
1:18:40 - The gift I gave this woman; the pressure 2s put on others, why it feels “creepy; pressure to reciprocate is 2 security, leverage; but this is *not conscious*
1:24:00 What it takes to wake up as a 2; the question, “Why isn’t this working?”; the woman who resisted anything given from the pattern, but stayed interested anyway
1:29:53 What was this like for you?
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In this conversation, we get into some REALLY good stuff:
- Realizing I thought my type was “universal," & how mistyping influences the value you see in the enneagram and the way you think of typology in general - Realizing I was a 2, shaking and crying, no longer being able to delude myself that I was coming from a purely selfless, loving place - 2 as a rejection type, not attachment type; “the hope machine” — I don’t believe being loved is possible, but I’m going go out to you anyway, hoping it reflects...
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