Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life with your host, Julia! In this episode, I dive into the curious phenomenon of not being able to imagine life after a big event—be it a long-awaited holiday, Christmas, or any milestone. Why do we focus everything on the buildup and then feel lost or “blank” once it’s over? I take a psychodynamic lens to this universal experience, exploring our emotional need to create psychological boundaries through fixed points in time.[00:01:10] — Realization that this is a universal phenomenon, introduction to the concept of "back to reality," and distinction from Monday Blues/Sunday Scaries.[00:01:50] — Discussion of the struggle to imagine life beyond fixed points and common slump after big events.[00:02:32] — Psychodynamic perspective: Using events as psychological boundaries and containers.[00:03:18] — Defenses and avoidance strategies: procrastination masked as planning, with examples around holidays like Christmas.[00:04:01] — More about how we split time between "before" and "after" events, and the illusion of psychological space and control.[00:06:02] — School holidays analogy; personal anecdote about denial and last-minute preparations for back-to-school.[00:06:48] — September as a "new start," the myth of fresh starts, and the reality of post-event life.[00:08:15] — Personal example of keeping the post-event feeling alive, advice for self-compassion and reframing anxiety-driven habits.Upcoming Events:Webinar with Scott Warren: Exploring defense mechanisms around pricing for coaches (early September)Essential Psychodynamics for Coaches course starts again in SeptemberWeekly LinkedIn Live Sessions: Mondays at 2:30pm (unless it’s a bank holiday!)Find more resources, join live sessions, or connect about coaching and psychodynamics at DynamicsOfEverydayLife.Don’t forget to subscribe, and stay tuned for more episodes helping you demystify everyday psychology!Sign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

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