I explore the theme of guilt and those everyday situations where we “just don’t have the heart” to make a change—even when we know we should. Drawing inspiration from Cliff Richard’s classic song and personal experiences (including a hairdresser dilemma!), I break down why these small endings feel so difficult, delving into the psychodynamic concepts at play.I explain how guilt keeps us stuck in outdated friendships, memberships, or routines—not to protect others, but often to safeguard our self-image as loyal and kind.[00:01:01]I give relatable examples like friendships, memberships, and my own dilemma about changing hairdressers due to guilt.[00:01:41]I share how guilt influenced my choices, illustrating the outsized emotional response to small decisions.[00:02:20]Discussion of how small endings can feel harder than big ones, and reflections on missed cathartic moments (slamming phone, walking out).[00:02:51]I explore the concept of guilt as "social glue"—signalling care, but also maintaining self-image, and Freud's superego.[00:03:21]I dive into the psychodynamic theory, introducing transference and how past relationships influence current situations (people-pleasing).[00:04:06]I cover defence mechanisms, how guilt functions to avoid discomfort, and introduce rationalisation as a way people justify staying put.[00:05:12]I talk about reaction formation—overcompensating with politeness or affection to shield oneself from true feelings.[00:05:52]I address idealisation and identification, how empathy or imagining the other's feelings can heighten personal guilt.[00:06:22]I invite listeners to consider where they're saying yes to avoid guilt, and differentiate comfort from growth.[00:07:12]I examine guilt at the edge of growth, staying in situations for loyalty or politeness, and encourage self-reflection and self-grace.[00:07:59]Self-awareness can be challenging, so proceed at your own pace. Reach out for support, subscribe, and stay tuned for future episodes!Sign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

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