We’ve all been sold the same fantasy: if you just find the right person — someone “perfect” — everything will finally feel easy. No more spirals, no more fights that last for days, no more wondering if you matter. But here’s the hard truth: that partner doesn’t exist.In this episode of Coupled With…, I break down why chasing the idea of a perfectly secure partner keeps you stuck in disappointment, and what actually creates security in love. Spoiler: it’s not about finding the flawless unicorn who never triggers you — it’s about building the right patterns together.We’ll explore:The cultural myth of the “perfectly secure partner” and how it sets you up to failThe real emotional loops couples get stuck in (silence that feels like a canyon, conflict that never ends)Why your nervous system panics faster than your logic — and how that plays out in relationshipsThe two paths: conflict loops vs. connection loopsOne simple, practical tool to interrupt spirals and create space for repairThis isn’t about settling or lowering your standards. It’s about trading the fairytale for something stronger and more real: a love that’s steady, imperfect, and built in the moments you come back to each other.Free Resources:7 Day Email Course: Break the Cycle: 7 Days to Breaking the Fight CycleFind it at: www.drrachelorleck.com

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