45. How to Fall in Love With Yourself After a Breakup

12/10/2025 1h 6min Episodio 45
45. How to Fall in Love With Yourself After a Breakup

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Episode Synopsis

In this episode, Sam reflects on that bit that all women do. You know the one! Where we go from the worst relationship of all time to finally finding our forever person, which is like some twisted 0-to-100 healing journey and rocketship from rock bottom to cloud 9?? Inspired by a lottt of DMs from her followers, many of whom seem to be going through breakups, Sam almost does the MOST annoying thing, which is repeat that tired old trope: "If you want to fall in love, you need to love yourself first." But she thinks better of it (TG), because she realized nobody knows how TF to do that. So instead of SAYING that shit, she teaches you how she did it herself. It's actually pretty good I think, and there's some very chatty realness in here.



Listen to this episode if you want to learn how to love yourself (duh), if you're in a toxic situationship/relationship (dump them tho!), or if you want some good old chatty background noise for cooking dinner tonight.



Key moments:

00:41 Taylor Swift and The Life of a Showgirl (I know the Charli XCX song is Actually Romantic, not Eldest Daughter, I just am not explaining myself well today lmao)

04:53 Update on my 5k journey

07:48 Sam’s self-loathing villain origin story lol

17:21 Aaaaand then I met the loml lmaoooooo

18:07 How self-loathing manifests (it’s not always overt)

21:34 How I fell in love with myself after longgggtime self-loathing

22:18 You can’t become self-aware by yourself (see: therapy)

26:05 Healing your relationship with yourself by spending intentional time with other people

31:48 Honoring your wants and needs

35:16 THIS TIP SLAPS. LISTEN TO THIS IF NOTHING ELSE!!!!!!

37:52 Going places by yourself

39:39 Alcohol and loving yourself

41:54 Exercising to get strong instead of as punishment

44:30 Procrastinating??

46:35 Listen here if you overexplain yourself and/or overapologize

49:27 Taking control of things in your life that you are not in control of, or that you don’t understand



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