Listen "#10 - The Pain of Being Who You’re Not: Be Yourself Before Life Chooses for You"
Episode Synopsis
We’re all handed a block of stone: unformed, raw, messy. What matters is what we carve from it.This episode marks the beginning of A Builder’s Journey, a special series within Brick to Marble. Every tenth episode traces the long, messy, beautiful path of transformation, from raw material to something more honest, more true, more alive.This chapter dives into the cost of being someone you’re not. Growing up between cultures (Brazilian and Ukrainian), chasing validation through achievement, comedy, women, and ultimately investment banking, I learned how easily we trade authenticity for applause. The price? A shadow self: unwell, exhausted, and lost.Michelangelo once said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” That’s the heart of this series. Growth isn’t about adding more, it’s about carving away the masks, the lies, and the false identities until only your true self remains.This is an invitation: to face the raw material of your life, and to begin sculpting something real.(00:00) Michelangelo’s Vision: The Angel in the Marble (00:21) A Builder’s Journey Begins (Every 10th Episode) (00:51) Imagine Standing Before Your Own Block of Stone (01:34) How Do You Chisel Away Shadow? (02:00) My Story: Growing Up Between Brazil and Ukraine (02:55) Jim Carrey or Donald Trump? The Paths I Thought I Had to Choose (03:24) Carl Rogers and Learning Self-Acceptance Without Judgment (03:57) The Day Everything Changed: My Body’s Wake-Up Call (04:34) Questions to Ask Yourself About Alignment and Authenticity (05:20) The Growth Equation Revealed Growth = embracing your unshaped self as the starting point of transformationBrick by brick, we’ll get there.-🔸 Build with me:Instagram: bricktomarblepodcastWebsite: bricktomarble.com
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