In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn breaks down one of the most common communication traps in relationships: expecting your partner to read your mind.Whether you're silently hoping your partner just knows you need a hug—or you're dropping hints that never land—this episode is your guide to getting what you actually need without spiraling, snapping, or shutting down.From attachment styles to the six human needs, Shanenn explains why asking isn’t needy—it’s necessary—and gives you the exact words to use so your partner can finally show up for you.💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:💬 “Asking isn’t needy—it’s necessary.”🧠 If you don’t say it, your partner is just guessing—and they’ll guess wrong.🔄 Every time you don’t ask, you reinforce the belief that your needs don’t matter.💥 Complaints like “you never text me” are often just unspoken needs for connection.💡 Hint-dropping leads to disappointment. Clear, direct asks lead to connection.⏰ Key Moments:1:30 – Why “If they loved me, they’d just know” is a romantic myth4:10 – How your partner’s brain is wired differently—and what that means for unmet needs6:45 – What each attachment style sounds like when trying to get their needs met10:15 – 3 hidden costs of not asking for what you want13:50 – Shanenn’s hilarious story about trying to “fix” her mom’s venting session17:10 – The 6 Human Needs and why your priorities may clash with your partner’s23:20 – What your complaint is really about—and how to find the core need26:30 – Simple scripts for clearly communicating your needs without guilt30:00 – Why unmet needs aren’t about being needy—they’re about being unclear🔗 Resources Mentioned:📝 Take the Attachment Style Quiz to better understand how you relate to love💬 Quote of the Episode:“Your needs are like GPS coordinates. Without them, your partner is just driving in circles—hoping to land at the right destination.”🎯 Perfect for listeners who:Struggle to ask for what they want without guiltDrop hints instead of expressing needs clearlyGet frustrated when their partner doesn’t “just know”Want to stop spiraling and start speaking with confidenceAre working to create more secure, emotionally honest relationshipsSchedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

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