When Gratitude Becomes a Cage (and How to Break Free)

01/10/2025 21 min
When Gratitude Becomes a Cage (and How to Break Free)

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Send us a textWe were taught to “be grateful” — often as a way to behave, comply, and stay small. In this episode, Rayne reframes gratitude as energetic currency that lifts your frequency when it’s sincere — not performed. She shows how gratitude and desire are not opposites but partners: gratitude is the currency, desire is the direction. You’ll learn how to hold both (without guilt), stop weaponised comparison, and model true duality for your kids so expansion becomes your new normal.What you’ll learn:The difference between felt gratitude (warmth, presence, expansion) vs performed gratitude (compliance, shame, frequency drop).Why sincere gratitude raises your vibration and acts as permission for the universe to give you more (energetic currency ≠ performative “shoulds”).How childhood conditioning turned gratitude into a cage — and how to rewrite that script as an adult and as a parent.Why comparison keeps you mediocre and how to stop using it to silence your desires.A practical framework to hold duality: “I’m grateful for ___ and I desire ___.”Key takeaways:Gratitude is currency. Desire is direction. Together they create expansion.Performed gratitude lowers frequency because it’s driven by shame and compliance.Comparison is a frequency drop; your desires don’t take from anyone else — the universe is abundant.Teach duality at home: “I’m grateful for… and I want…” (appreciation ≠ shutdown).Micro-receiving rewires safety: say “Thank you, I receive” to compliments, help, coffee — and let your system hold more.Try this now (two-minute practice): Write one line: “I’m grateful for ______ and I desire ______.” Read it out loud and feel the lift. If it feels light, your body believes you can hold both.Resources & links:Join MiSELF Method — doors open NOW. We start 13 October. Create nervous-system safety to hold gratitude and desire.Book a clarity call (link in show notes).Connect on Instagram @raynebryantofficial