In this thought-provoking episode of the Dynamics of Everyday Life, I explore why group dynamics—especially within committees, boards, and teams—often lead even sensible adults into emotionally charged conflicts and role-playing. Drawing inspiration from the Depeche Mode song “People are People,” I dive into why group situations can reduce us to playground politics and power struggles, no matter our age or intention.[00:00:54]I describe real-world examples of committee conflict, highlighting how group dynamics can become emotionally charged—even among well-meaning people.[00:01:47]Discussion of why adults lose perspective in committees—I introduce the idea that group settings trigger behaviors and roles from childhood, mentioning transference.[00:02:29]Detailed explanation of transference and how group members unconsciously take on familiar roles from the past (e.g., chairperson as “dad,” outspoken member as “big sister”).[00:03:00]I dive into defence mechanisms at play within groups, like projection, splitting, and projective identification, and explains how committee dynamics feel like family dynamics.[00:03:35]Breakdown of typical roles in group settings—parent, rebel, peacekeeper, child—and how group issues are often symbolic rather than literal.[00:04:17]I link group dynamics in committees to workplace teams and families. I share a personal story about leaving a stressful WhatsApp group chat.[00:04:57]How we repeat familiar patterns unconsciously and why Depeche Mode’s lyric, "people are people," fits so well.[00:05:44]Introduction of the concept “the third” by Jessica Benjamin: Stepping back as an observer instead of an automatic participant in group drama.[00:06:22]Strategies for moving from reactive to responsive in group dynamics—naming patterns rather than people.[00:07:05]Advice to listeners: Reflect on their own experiences in groups, realize these patterns are universal, and give themselves grace.Always remember: group tension is rarely personal. People are people, doing their best to meet old needs in new ways.Don’t forget to subscribe and check the show notes for links to resources and more episodes!Sign Up for your free Resource Sheet HEREConnect with Julia:Website LinkedInInstagram

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