In this episode, we delve into the often daunting world of couples therapy, particularly from the perspective of men who may feel apprehensive. We focus on how men can prepare for and benefit from the process and emphasize that effective therapy goes beyond communication; it requires thinking deeper about relationship dynamics and emotional safety. If you're new to understanding our perspective on long-term, committed relationships, we recommend reading "Wired for Love" or "In Each Other's Care" to build foundational knowledge.We discuss the misconception that therapy is about identifying one partner as "the problem." Instead, we encourage viewing therapy as a chance to understand each other better, recognizing that both partners contribute to the relationship's challenges.We also address the societal pressures that may make men hesitant to seek help, stressing the importance of finding a skilled therapist who fosters balanced dialogue. Men need to identify and express their personal needs in therapy, moving beyond surface complaints to deeper emotional requirements.We highlight the importance of effective repair after conflicts, noting that men often struggle with over-explaining rather than simply acknowledging their partner's hurt. Emotional presence and empathy are crucial for building intimacy.Educating yourself, approaching couple's therapy as a learning opportunity, and engaging in the emotional work necessary for healing are the key steps for getting the most from your couple's therapy work and building more intimacy in your partnership.Thank you for listening, and please share this episode with anyone who might benefit! Good luck out there!00:00:00 - Introduction to Couples Therapy Preparation00:01:00 - Understanding the Need for Communication00:02:00 - Reading Recommendations for Better Understanding00:03:00 - Reframing Couples Therapy as a Learning Opportunity00:04:00 - The Role of the Therapist: Not a Judge00:05:00 - Men's Resistance to Therapy and Power Dynamics00:06:00 - The Importance of Shared Responsibility in Relationships00:07:00 - Expectations from Couples Therapy00:08:00 - Identifying Personal Needs in the Relationship00:09:00 - The Dangers of Not Expressing Needs00:10:00 - The Importance of Effective Repair in Relationships00:11:00 - Understanding Emotional Dynamics in Repair00:12:00 - The Anatomy of Hurt and Its Impact00:13:00 - The Process of Healing and Trust Restoration00:14:00 - The Role of Empathy in Repairing Relationships00:15:00 - Recap of Key Points for Couples Therapy Preparation00:16:00 - Upcoming Programs and Resources for Men00:17:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action

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