In this episode, Cindy Esliger breaks down all the meanings behind the deceptively innocent phrase “It must be nice”. We were taught not to say certain things aloud, so often this little phrase gets used as a passive-aggressive dig or expression of envy. Cindy lays out all the things really being said when people say “It must be nice”, from discomfort to unmet needs to jealousy, and offers advice on how to deal with hearing it and saying it. It’s time to learn more honest, respectful ways of communicating with each other. The four little words “It must be nice” can convey a lot of hidden messages. Cindy details eight possible meanings that could be inferred from the phrase: 1. Masked envy, 2. Suppressed resentment or perceived unfairness, 3. Unspoken guilt or shame, 4. Fear of hope or disappointment, 5. Policing joy or success, 6. Social comparison and status signaling, 7. Emotional distancing or conversational filler, and 8. A subtle invitation to show someone what’s possible. How we respond to any of these intentions will set the tone of the interaction.We don’t just hear those words, though. We also say them. “It must be nice.” What do we mean by that? Cindy offers four honest assessments of what might really be underneath the words: 1. It’s a defense mechanism, 2. It’s a coping mechanism, 3. It’s a cry for acknowledgement, or 4. It’s a way to express pain without vulnerability. Once we can identify what we really mean, we can use Cindy’s guide to self-assessment and how to reframe our communication into something more useful and open.  Resources discussed in this episode:Guide to Going Deeper with the Underlying MeaningAstronomic AudioConfidence Collective—Contact Cindy Esliger Career Confidence Coaching: website | instagram | facebook | linkedin | email Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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