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Listen "EP 41| MARRIED BUT LONELY. WHY HE AVOIDS INTIMACY - HOW TO RESPOND"
Episode Synopsis
Being married doesn't always mean being fulfilled. Are you feeling unseen?
This week, I unpack the heavy burden of emotional loneliness in marriages. It's time to validate your feelings and reclaim your emotional space!
What steps are you taking to nurture your emotional well-being? Drop a comment!
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or Couples counselling in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
Title: Understanding Loneliness in Marriage: Navigating Emotional Unavailability
Introduction:
In today's episode of the Emotional Healing for Women podcast, I unpacked a profound yet often unspoken struggle—feeling lonely within a marriage. Many women find themselves married but emotionally isolated, especially when their spouses are emotionally unavailable. In this episode, we’ll explore this issue, drawing insights from the podcast to provide understanding and actionable steps for those grappling with this painful experience.
Main Content:
Section 1: The Reality of Emotional Loneliness
The podcast opens with a powerful statement: "You can be married and lonely." This resonates with many who experience emotional disconnection in their marriages. Mav emphasizes that emotional loneliness is not merely physical solitude but a deep sense of being unseen and unheard by one’s partner. This feeling can lead to confusion and self-doubt, particularly when one spouse feels neglected or invalidated by the other.
Section 2: The Impact of Enmeshment
A significant factor contributing to emotional unavailability is enmeshment within family dynamics. Mav explains that individuals from enmeshed families often struggle with blurred boundaries, making it hard to separate their emotional needs from those of their family members. This can lead to a spouse being emotionally occupied by unresolved family issues, resulting in their inability to connect with their partner. For example, first-born children often take on caregiving roles, which can diminish their ability to recognize and articulate their own emotional needs.
Section 3: The Cycle of Emotional Avoidance
The podcast highlights how emotionally unavailable husbands may not even recognize their avoidance. Mav points out that many individuals learn to navigate relationships without true emotional intimacy, leading to patterns of invalidation. This can leave the lonely spouse feeling dismissed, as one listener recounted, "My husband would just say, no, that’s all in your head." This dismissal can create a cycle where the wife feels increasingly isolated and confused.
Section 4: The Consequences of Emotional Neglect
Mav discusses the toll that emotional neglect can take on a woman's mental and physical health. Chronic stress from feeling invalidated can lead to various health issues, including fatigue and anxiety. Furthermore, many women may find that past emotional wounds resurface in their current relationships, especially if they grew up with emotionally unavailable parent figures, which can lead to heightened feelings of abandonment and rejection.
Section 5: Taking Action Towards Healing
Despite the challenges, Mav encourages listeners to take control of their emotional well-being. She emphasizes the importance of detachment—not as a form of punishment, but as a necessary step for self-preservation. Detachment can involve setting boundaries and creating space to reclaim one’s emotional health. Mav suggests that women recognize their worth as individuals and prioritize their emotional needs, stating, "You are deserving of emotional validation."
Conclusion: Key Takeaways
Feeling lonely in a marriage due to emotional unavailability is a common yet painful experience. Recognizing this loneliness is the first step towards healing. Women must allow themselves to feel validated and understood, not just as wives or mothers, but as individuals. By setting boundaries and focusing on self-care, women can begin to reclaim their emotional health and navigate their marriages more effectively. Remember, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being, and seeking help is a strength, not a weakness.
Tags: Emotional Loneliness, Marriage Challenges, Emotional Availability, Enmeshment, Women’s Health, Emotional Validation, Self-Care, Marriage Counseling, Christian Women, Emotional Healing.
#MarriageMatters #EmotionalWellness #HealingTogether #WomenInFaith #ChristianMarriage #LoveYourself #SelfCare #MentalHealthSupport #Relationships .
This week, I unpack the heavy burden of emotional loneliness in marriages. It's time to validate your feelings and reclaim your emotional space!
What steps are you taking to nurture your emotional well-being? Drop a comment!
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or Couples counselling in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
Title: Understanding Loneliness in Marriage: Navigating Emotional Unavailability
Introduction:
In today's episode of the Emotional Healing for Women podcast, I unpacked a profound yet often unspoken struggle—feeling lonely within a marriage. Many women find themselves married but emotionally isolated, especially when their spouses are emotionally unavailable. In this episode, we’ll explore this issue, drawing insights from the podcast to provide understanding and actionable steps for those grappling with this painful experience.
Main Content:
Section 1: The Reality of Emotional Loneliness
The podcast opens with a powerful statement: "You can be married and lonely." This resonates with many who experience emotional disconnection in their marriages. Mav emphasizes that emotional loneliness is not merely physical solitude but a deep sense of being unseen and unheard by one’s partner. This feeling can lead to confusion and self-doubt, particularly when one spouse feels neglected or invalidated by the other.
Section 2: The Impact of Enmeshment
A significant factor contributing to emotional unavailability is enmeshment within family dynamics. Mav explains that individuals from enmeshed families often struggle with blurred boundaries, making it hard to separate their emotional needs from those of their family members. This can lead to a spouse being emotionally occupied by unresolved family issues, resulting in their inability to connect with their partner. For example, first-born children often take on caregiving roles, which can diminish their ability to recognize and articulate their own emotional needs.
Section 3: The Cycle of Emotional Avoidance
The podcast highlights how emotionally unavailable husbands may not even recognize their avoidance. Mav points out that many individuals learn to navigate relationships without true emotional intimacy, leading to patterns of invalidation. This can leave the lonely spouse feeling dismissed, as one listener recounted, "My husband would just say, no, that’s all in your head." This dismissal can create a cycle where the wife feels increasingly isolated and confused.
Section 4: The Consequences of Emotional Neglect
Mav discusses the toll that emotional neglect can take on a woman's mental and physical health. Chronic stress from feeling invalidated can lead to various health issues, including fatigue and anxiety. Furthermore, many women may find that past emotional wounds resurface in their current relationships, especially if they grew up with emotionally unavailable parent figures, which can lead to heightened feelings of abandonment and rejection.
Section 5: Taking Action Towards Healing
Despite the challenges, Mav encourages listeners to take control of their emotional well-being. She emphasizes the importance of detachment—not as a form of punishment, but as a necessary step for self-preservation. Detachment can involve setting boundaries and creating space to reclaim one’s emotional health. Mav suggests that women recognize their worth as individuals and prioritize their emotional needs, stating, "You are deserving of emotional validation."
Conclusion: Key Takeaways
Feeling lonely in a marriage due to emotional unavailability is a common yet painful experience. Recognizing this loneliness is the first step towards healing. Women must allow themselves to feel validated and understood, not just as wives or mothers, but as individuals. By setting boundaries and focusing on self-care, women can begin to reclaim their emotional health and navigate their marriages more effectively. Remember, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being, and seeking help is a strength, not a weakness.
Tags: Emotional Loneliness, Marriage Challenges, Emotional Availability, Enmeshment, Women’s Health, Emotional Validation, Self-Care, Marriage Counseling, Christian Women, Emotional Healing.
#MarriageMatters #EmotionalWellness #HealingTogether #WomenInFaith #ChristianMarriage #LoveYourself #SelfCare #MentalHealthSupport #Relationships .
In God we trust