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Episode Synopsis
You can binge every dating podcast or you tube video. You can read about attachment styles. You can point out red flags like a pro. But insight isn’t the same as healing. I hope this episode blesses you!
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my Live Workshop: LUMINOUS, YOUR ULTIMATE LOVE LIFE GLOW UP
What You’ll Get Inside This Workshop:
The Real Tea 🍵 — Why you keep being drawn to emotionally unavailable people (and how to break that cycle for good).
Stop Guessing — Get clear on the stages of a romantic relationship so you know where you stand, every time.
Faith-Led Roadmap 🙏🏽 — A simple, biblical framework that actually makes sense for modern dating.
Master the Vibe Check — How to spot 🚩 red flags and 💚 green flags with clarity and confidence.
Your Action Plan — A step-by-step, faith-led roadmap to your love life glow-up.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get Instant Coaching for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
🎙️ Podcast Episode 35: CHRISTIAN DATING: HOW TO HEAL FIRST AND ATTRACT LASTING LOVE
Intro (0:00 – 1:00)
“You can binge every dating podcast or you tube video. You can read about attachment styles. You can point out red flags like a pro. But insight isn’t the same as healing.
Real healing isn’t just in your head — it’s in your body, your heart, your nervous system. It’s learning how to calm your anxiety, regulate your emotions, and actually sit with your pain without numbing it away with busyness, food, or even ministry.
When you start doing this deeper work, love gets less confusing. Friendships feel lighter. Dating feels less like survival and more like discovery. That’s when you know you’re healing
Let’s be real — dating is hard. Like, really hard. And if you’ve ever experienced abuse, neglect, or even just grown up in a home where relationships weren’t healthy, dating becomes more than just hard — it feels like warfare. Friendships are harder. Loneliness hits deeper. You might feel like everyone else is moving forward socially — they’re in relationships, they’re making friends, they’re getting married — and you’re still stuck repeating patterns that go nowhere.
And if that’s you, I just want you to know: nothing is wrong with you. You’re not broken. But there may be emotional gaps that need healing. And today, we’re going to talk about why that happens — and more importantly, what you can actually do about it.”
Segment 1 – Why Love Feels Hard After Wounds (1:00 – 3:00)
“When you’ve grown up with trauma, rejection, or neglect, here’s the truth: you didn’t get a model for healthy love. So your nervous system — your whole emotional map — doesn’t know what safe love looks like. Instead, it looks for what’s familiar. And sometimes familiar means unsafe.
That’s why you might notice patterns like:
👉 Constantly ending up with emotionally unavailable people.
👉 Struggling to keep friendships alive.
👉 Feeling anxious, always waiting for someone to leave.
👉 Or being so guarded that nobody ever really gets close.
And if you’ve been asking yourself: ‘Why can’t I make this work? Why do I keep choosing the wrong people?’ The answer is simple but deep — emotional wounds shape attraction.”
Segment 2 – Knowing Isn’t Healing (3:00 – 5:00)
“You can binge every dating podcast. You can read about attachment styles. You can point out red flags like a pro. But insight isn’t the same as healing.
Real healing isn’t just in your head — it’s in your body, your heart, your nervous system. It’s learning how to calm your anxiety, regulate your emotions, and actually sit with your pain without numbing it away with busyness, food, or even ministry.
When you start doing this deeper work, love gets less confusing. Friendships feel lighter. Dating feels less like survival and more like discovery. That’s when you know you’re healing.”
Segment 3 – The Process That Changes Everything (5:00 – 7:30)
“So what does it actually take? Here are three things I teach my clients all the time:
💡 Courage to feel. Healing means letting yourself grieve the rejection or neglect you buried. Grief isn’t weakness — it’s the doorway to wholeness.
💡 A safe witness. Whether it’s therapy, coaching, or a healing community, you need someone who knows how trauma works — someone who can look you in the eye and say, ‘This pain won’t kill you,’ while teaching you how to regulate and trust yourself again.
💡 Daily practices. Honest prayer. Journaling that tracks patterns. Boundaries that protect your peace. Small habits that ground you. These are the bricks that rebuild your emotional foundation.
And when you start putting these in place? Your inner world changes. Suddenly, you’re not attracting chaos anymore — you’re attracting calm. You’re not chasing people — the right people are finding you.”
Segment 4 – Where Love Actually Begins (7:30 – 8:30)
“Here’s the counterintuitive truth: love usually shows up when you stop chasing it. When you start becoming the healed version of yourself, attraction shifts. You start to glow differently. The partners who show up reflect the grounded, confident, faith-rooted you.
That’s not magic. That’s alignment.”
Call to Action – Invitation to Luminous Workshop (8:30 – 9:30)
“And if you’re listening right now thinking: Yes, this is me — I want this change, then I want to personally invite you to my virtual workshop: Luminous: The Ultimate Love Life Glow-Up.
This workshop is all about Healing Your Heart to Attract an Extraordinary Partnership. I’ll teach you exactly why you keep ending up in toxic cycles, how to know what stage of dating you’re in, how to spot red flags 🚩 and green flags 💚 with confidence, and most importantly — how to build a faith-led roadmap for love that lasts.
If you’re tuning in before October 11th — grab your ticket. Seats are limited and it will sell out.
And if you’re listening after? No stress. You can still grab the full recording on my website. It won’t disappoint.”
Closing (9:30 – 10:00)
“Remember — you don’t have to be perfect to be loved. You just need to be willing to heal, to grow, to let God restore what’s been broken. That’s where real, lasting love begins.
Follow this channel for more — I’ve got incredible guests lined up over the next few weeks sharing their stories of healing and transformation. You don’t want to miss it.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi — thank you for listening and stay confident and beautiful.
KEY WORDS
#30sDating #40sDating #ChristianTherapy #RelationshipGoals #RejectionRecovery #EmotionalHealing #DatingAdvice #ChristianRelationship #SelfLoveJourney #TherapistExplains #BreakupRecovery #HealYourPast #WomenEmpowerment #FaithJourney #SinglesLife #RelationshipGoals #TraumaInformed #SelfWorth #ChristianWomen #20sLife #30sLife #40sLife #FindingLove #PurposeDrivenWoman #20sDating, #30sDating, #40sDating, #20sLife, #30sLife, #40sLife
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my Live Workshop: LUMINOUS, YOUR ULTIMATE LOVE LIFE GLOW UP
What You’ll Get Inside This Workshop:
The Real Tea 🍵 — Why you keep being drawn to emotionally unavailable people (and how to break that cycle for good).
Stop Guessing — Get clear on the stages of a romantic relationship so you know where you stand, every time.
Faith-Led Roadmap 🙏🏽 — A simple, biblical framework that actually makes sense for modern dating.
Master the Vibe Check — How to spot 🚩 red flags and 💚 green flags with clarity and confidence.
Your Action Plan — A step-by-step, faith-led roadmap to your love life glow-up.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get Instant Coaching for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
🎙️ Podcast Episode 35: CHRISTIAN DATING: HOW TO HEAL FIRST AND ATTRACT LASTING LOVE
Intro (0:00 – 1:00)
“You can binge every dating podcast or you tube video. You can read about attachment styles. You can point out red flags like a pro. But insight isn’t the same as healing.
Real healing isn’t just in your head — it’s in your body, your heart, your nervous system. It’s learning how to calm your anxiety, regulate your emotions, and actually sit with your pain without numbing it away with busyness, food, or even ministry.
When you start doing this deeper work, love gets less confusing. Friendships feel lighter. Dating feels less like survival and more like discovery. That’s when you know you’re healing
Let’s be real — dating is hard. Like, really hard. And if you’ve ever experienced abuse, neglect, or even just grown up in a home where relationships weren’t healthy, dating becomes more than just hard — it feels like warfare. Friendships are harder. Loneliness hits deeper. You might feel like everyone else is moving forward socially — they’re in relationships, they’re making friends, they’re getting married — and you’re still stuck repeating patterns that go nowhere.
And if that’s you, I just want you to know: nothing is wrong with you. You’re not broken. But there may be emotional gaps that need healing. And today, we’re going to talk about why that happens — and more importantly, what you can actually do about it.”
Segment 1 – Why Love Feels Hard After Wounds (1:00 – 3:00)
“When you’ve grown up with trauma, rejection, or neglect, here’s the truth: you didn’t get a model for healthy love. So your nervous system — your whole emotional map — doesn’t know what safe love looks like. Instead, it looks for what’s familiar. And sometimes familiar means unsafe.
That’s why you might notice patterns like:
👉 Constantly ending up with emotionally unavailable people.
👉 Struggling to keep friendships alive.
👉 Feeling anxious, always waiting for someone to leave.
👉 Or being so guarded that nobody ever really gets close.
And if you’ve been asking yourself: ‘Why can’t I make this work? Why do I keep choosing the wrong people?’ The answer is simple but deep — emotional wounds shape attraction.”
Segment 2 – Knowing Isn’t Healing (3:00 – 5:00)
“You can binge every dating podcast. You can read about attachment styles. You can point out red flags like a pro. But insight isn’t the same as healing.
Real healing isn’t just in your head — it’s in your body, your heart, your nervous system. It’s learning how to calm your anxiety, regulate your emotions, and actually sit with your pain without numbing it away with busyness, food, or even ministry.
When you start doing this deeper work, love gets less confusing. Friendships feel lighter. Dating feels less like survival and more like discovery. That’s when you know you’re healing.”
Segment 3 – The Process That Changes Everything (5:00 – 7:30)
“So what does it actually take? Here are three things I teach my clients all the time:
💡 Courage to feel. Healing means letting yourself grieve the rejection or neglect you buried. Grief isn’t weakness — it’s the doorway to wholeness.
💡 A safe witness. Whether it’s therapy, coaching, or a healing community, you need someone who knows how trauma works — someone who can look you in the eye and say, ‘This pain won’t kill you,’ while teaching you how to regulate and trust yourself again.
💡 Daily practices. Honest prayer. Journaling that tracks patterns. Boundaries that protect your peace. Small habits that ground you. These are the bricks that rebuild your emotional foundation.
And when you start putting these in place? Your inner world changes. Suddenly, you’re not attracting chaos anymore — you’re attracting calm. You’re not chasing people — the right people are finding you.”
Segment 4 – Where Love Actually Begins (7:30 – 8:30)
“Here’s the counterintuitive truth: love usually shows up when you stop chasing it. When you start becoming the healed version of yourself, attraction shifts. You start to glow differently. The partners who show up reflect the grounded, confident, faith-rooted you.
That’s not magic. That’s alignment.”
Call to Action – Invitation to Luminous Workshop (8:30 – 9:30)
“And if you’re listening right now thinking: Yes, this is me — I want this change, then I want to personally invite you to my virtual workshop: Luminous: The Ultimate Love Life Glow-Up.
This workshop is all about Healing Your Heart to Attract an Extraordinary Partnership. I’ll teach you exactly why you keep ending up in toxic cycles, how to know what stage of dating you’re in, how to spot red flags 🚩 and green flags 💚 with confidence, and most importantly — how to build a faith-led roadmap for love that lasts.
If you’re tuning in before October 11th — grab your ticket. Seats are limited and it will sell out.
And if you’re listening after? No stress. You can still grab the full recording on my website. It won’t disappoint.”
Closing (9:30 – 10:00)
“Remember — you don’t have to be perfect to be loved. You just need to be willing to heal, to grow, to let God restore what’s been broken. That’s where real, lasting love begins.
Follow this channel for more — I’ve got incredible guests lined up over the next few weeks sharing their stories of healing and transformation. You don’t want to miss it.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi — thank you for listening and stay confident and beautiful.
KEY WORDS
#30sDating #40sDating #ChristianTherapy #RelationshipGoals #RejectionRecovery #EmotionalHealing #DatingAdvice #ChristianRelationship #SelfLoveJourney #TherapistExplains #BreakupRecovery #HealYourPast #WomenEmpowerment #FaithJourney #SinglesLife #RelationshipGoals #TraumaInformed #SelfWorth #ChristianWomen #20sLife #30sLife #40sLife #FindingLove #PurposeDrivenWoman #20sDating, #30sDating, #40sDating, #20sLife, #30sLife, #40sLife
In God we trust