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Transcript:
Today we're going to be discussing an important topic that I title "Understanding the Stages of Relationship." How to Define Your New Relationship, especially for those who have just exited an abusive relationship. As a relationship and couple therapist, I frequently encounter clients who are re-entering relationships and often find themselves in a disappointing state or start experiencing what I call ambivalence in their relationship. What I usually ask is, what is the status of your new relationship? Their responses are often uncertain. Are you husbands or wives or boyfriends or living lovers? Often, they don't know the next stage of their relationship. Meanwhile, they have become sexually and emotionally intimate.
They have pooled resources to make investments in properties, buy pets, and generally live like a couple without establishing the necessary structure for the success of their relationship. So if you've just ended an abusive relationship or you've experienced family of origin trauma, you are more vulnerable than those who have not.
Therefore, it is crucial to take your romantic relationships more seriously and don't treat them casually, particularly if you're over 30 years or you feel like you don't have time to waste on relationships going nowhere. Relationships are complicated and they require patience, understanding, and effective communication skills to maintain that healthy connection with your partner.
Research shows that when individuals take their time before re-entering romantic relationships, they are more likely to have successful long-term relationships. By taking time to know who you're getting involved with, you better understand your values, their values, their beliefs, and goals, and that helps you to determine if you're compatible and if your relationship has the potential to last.
Also, when you take your time before entering a romantic relationship, it helps you prioritize your own needs and ensures that while you're going into that new relationship, you're going in for the right reasons and you're not just feeling pressured to do so.
Let's discuss the different stages of a relationship. Number one, we all know is romantic attraction. Wow, is that first time you meet someone, you're drawn to their physical appearance, their personality, or other traits. It's during this stage, it's important that you're aware of your own feelings and you communicate them openly with your partner. You might have doubts or fears about entering a relationship, but take the time to explore those feelings and discuss them in your interactions. If you're finding this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up, comment below with your thoughts, and don't forget to subscribe to my channel for more insightful content. Your support means the world to me. Also, I do provide Zoom or online consultations. You can visit my website, wholesomecounseling.com, and book a consultation if you need help.
All right, let's discuss the second stage, which is the stage of romance. Here is where the relationship starts to deepen and become more intimate. Couples begin to explore each other's personalities, their values, and beliefs through what I call self-disclosing conversation. It's that time you express your feelings more openly and you engage in activities that strengthen your emotional bond.
The next stage is the stage of commitment. This is when you and your partner decide to commit to a relationship. You're no longer seeing other people, you trust, you communicate, and you have mutual respect between yourselves, and you have become really important to each other while you're navigating whatever challenge you're having to establish a long-term relationship. I'd like you to keep in mind that relationship is a journey and it is important that you have a support that helps you sustain that relationship.
If you need any help, feel free to go to my website, wholesomecancelling.com, and schedule a session. I'm happy to provide some sessions as well. The fourth stage of relationship is a stage of intimacy, where couples bond really well. Intimacy occurs at this time and you and your partner often develop deeper emotional connection, it's important to prioritize other levels of intimacy such as spiritual intimacy, intellectual intimacy, emotional intimacy, according to your spiritual and cultural values. If you're finding this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up, drop your comments and your thoughts, and don't forget to subscribe to my channel for more insightful content. Your support means the world to me. And also you can book a consultation as I said earlier through my website. I do provide relationship and couple therapy.
During the stage of intimacy, couples come together. They are united. It's like two family traditions coming together, two norms, two lifestyles. Couples who can successfully navigate conflicts and work together often find that their relationships come out stronger. This is where counseling is also very helpful, where you do premarital counseling that really helps you to what I call the next stage of growth.
When couples come together, exploring interests together, activities, knowing one another's goal, it is normal that there should be mutual support in a community that helps you continue communication because there will be changes and conflicts in the relationship. And that will require patience, understanding, the use of effective communication so that you and your partner can build a strong and healthy connection.
Always prioritize mutual respect and open communication to ensure a positive and fulfilling relationship. This is also important that it's not enough to want to be in a relationship. I usually encourage it's important that your relationship is healthy.
It's important that you are in a relationship where it's a two-way interaction. You're giving into the relationship and you're also receiving. I've heard some couples down the line go like, really regret coming into this relationship because I didn't think that at the time that I saw clearly who my partner was. And I often say this over and over again. If you have just exited an abusive relationship or you have experienced what I call childhood trauma, it's important that you give yourself time to heal and recover.
Now, I'm not saying you are going to come to this perfect space where you no longer have any triggers or any emotional pain, but that you are substantially healed enough for you to see clearer what your needs are and how you might choose a partner that can help you along your journey.
The goal of choosing a partner is so that you can travel through life feeling safe, feeling secure, feeling visible and heard and having your need of companionship and maybe your need of family as well reached. So that's all there is around stages of relationship.
If you feel that there are more stages of relationships that have not been covered in this video, feel free to include that in the comment. I'd like to read that as well.
And until I see you in the next video, remember to like, comment, follow, and subscribe to my channel. Do take care. Bye for now.
 

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