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Episode Synopsis
Look forward. Your best days are ahead of you, not behind.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
KEYWORDS: #HopeAhead, #FaithJourney, #RoutineMatters, #SpiritualGrowth, #HealingPath, #PrayerPower, #VisionRestored, #PositiveMindset, #EmbraceChange, #ReflectiveJournaling
TRANSCRIPT
“Their best days are not behind.”
Hey — I want you to sit with that for a second. Say it out loud if you need to: Their best days are not behind. Now let me say it to you directly: Your best days are not behind you. Not even close.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi. I’m a therapist and a Christian coach. I talk to women who’ve been disappointed, let down, or hurt — sometimes by people, sometimes by life itself. I also work with women who feel their dreams have stalled. Here’s the truth I want you to hear today: disappointment is real, but it is not the final chapter. There is a path forward. Proverbs 4:18 says, “The path of the righteous shines brighter and brighter until the full light of day.” That image matters — it’s gradual, steady, and it gets brighter. Your life can do the same.
This is a short, practical message about keeping hope when things go wrong, and how routines, exercise, prayer and Scripture can help you return to the blueprint God gave you — your vision, your calling, your next season.
Why hope feels fragile — and why it isn’t gone
When disappointment lands — a relationship that failed, a job that collapsed, a door that slammed — your inner world shrinks. Things that once felt possible become heavy. That’s normal. The problem is not feeling hurt. The problem is staying stuck in the hurt.
Hope is not denial. Hope is a posture. It’s a choice to open your hands to what God might still do. It’s also practical. You don’t wait for hope to appear like magic. You build conditions where hope grows.
Routines are the scaffolding of hope
Here’s the most practical thing: routine matters. When life breaks, your nervous system can feel chaotic. Routine is a small, reliable anchor. It re-teaches your body and brain that life can be predictable again. That predictability invites calm. Calm opens space for hope.
Start tiny. I mean tiny. Pick two simple things and do them every day at roughly the same time:
5 minutes of breathwork or prayer first thing.
10 minutes of journaling each evening — write one thing that went ok.
That’s your minimum. Don’t skip it because you feel “too tired” or “not worthy.” Consistency beats intensity. A steady, tiny routine teaches your body that you can be safe again. Once those small habits stick, they give you the energy and clarity to reach for your bigger blueprint — that vision God gave you.
How routines reconnect you to your life blueprint
Remember the vision you had — the career idea, the family dream, the ministry stirring in your heart? Trauma and disappointment don’t erase vision. They bury it under survival behaviours. Routine is the shovel that uncovers it.
A practical map:
Morning: 10 minutes quiet time (Bible + prayer). Ask one question: What step today honours that vision?
Midday: A short walk or movement break. Move with intention for 10–20 minutes.
Evening: Journal 3 things — what you did toward your vision, what you learned, what you’re grateful for.
These small, consistent steps are like deposits into the future you want. Over weeks, the vision becomes tangible again. You start recognising opportunities and making decisions that align with your blueprint.
Why exercise is non-negotiable for hope
Listen: exercise is not vanity. It’s a faith tool. Movement helps regulate your body, lifts your mood, and gives you energy to show up for life. When your body is stuck in fight/flight, your thinking is foggy. Exercise helps reset that.
You don’t need a gym. Try these quick options:
15–20 minute brisk walk outside — the sun changes your hormones.
10 minutes of bodyweight moves at home — squats, lunges, wall push-ups.
Dance to one favourite praise song — 5 minutes, full body.
The aim is to move regularly. Movement releases stress chemicals and makes space for hope to feel real in your body. When your body feels strong, your choices shift. You stop reacting and start responding.
Prayer and Scripture as your anchor
In a world full of negative headlines and social media noise, God’s Word is more needed than ever. Scripture patches the holes that the world pokes into your heart. Prayer is the habit of placing your pain into God’s hands and asking for wisdom and courage.
Make this simple:
Pick a verse — like Proverbs 4:18 — and read it slowly each morning. Let it sink in.
Use short, honest prayers. You don’t need fancy words. Say: “Lord, I’m hurt. I need Your light. Show me one step today.”
Memorise a promise — a short one. Repeat it when the panic or doubt comes.
These are small spiritual disciplines that become spiritual muscles. Over time you won’t just know God loves you — you’ll feel it in the small moments, and that changes everything.
Control your feed: limit the negative inputs
Social media is a sneak thief of peace. It amplifies comparison, fear, and despair. If hope is your goal, curate your inputs.
Set a time limit for scrolling each day. Be strict.
Unfollow accounts that leave you anxious or small.
Follow content that builds faith and practical growth — a short devotional, a 5-minute prayer, a real-life testimony.
Replace “doom scroll” with “soul scroll.” Even ten minutes of God-centred content is better than an hour of anxiety.
Small rituals that build steady faith
Routines don’t need to be rigid. Think of them as tiny rituals that remind you who you are. Here are some practical rituals:
Morning light ritual: open curtains, read one verse, take three deep breaths.
Midday reset: stretch, drink water, say a quick prayer of thanks.
Night close: journal 3 things that didn’t break you today.
These rituals make ordinary days sacred. They keep the light moving forward on your path, like Proverbs promises.
Seek help — it’s brave, not weak
As a therapist, I’ll say this plainly: you don’t have to do deep work alone. Therapy, coaching, safe friendships — they hold you while you learn new ways to love and be loved. A skilled guide helps you sit in the pain without being swallowed by it. That is crucial before you step into healthy romantic love.
If you’re ready for help, look for someone who understands trauma and faith. Don’t settle for quick fixes. Healing is slow, but it’s also the most effective way to attract the life and love you want.
A short practical plan for the week
If you want to try this now, here’s a simple plan for the next seven days:
Day 1: Pick one scripture and write it on a note you can see. (Proverbs 4:18)
Day 2: Start a 10-minute morning routine (verse + 5-minute prayer).
Day 3: Take a 15-minute walk and pray or listen to worship.
Day 4: Journal for 10 minutes about your vision — one sentence.
Day 5: Do a short, honest talk with a trusted friend or a therapist.
Day 6: Limit social media to 20 minutes and curate your feed.
Day 7: Reflect: what small step moved you closer to your vision?
Closing — a quick prayer and promise
Friend, I won’t promise you a perfect ride. Healing is often messy. But God promises a path that grows brighter. If you do the small things — keep a routine, move your body, anchor in Scripture, and protect your mind from negativity — the light starts to change the landscape of your life.
Let’s pray: Lord, help her see the path brightening ahead. Give her the courage to do the small, daily things that grow hope. Restore her vision and bring the right people, doors and opportunities. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Your best days are not behind. The path ahead can shine brighter. Start with one small thing today.
If you want a simple journal to track the steps, download the free reflective journal at marveladeyemi.com.au. I’d love to hear one thing that changed for you this week
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
KEYWORDS: #HopeAhead, #FaithJourney, #RoutineMatters, #SpiritualGrowth, #HealingPath, #PrayerPower, #VisionRestored, #PositiveMindset, #EmbraceChange, #ReflectiveJournaling
TRANSCRIPT
“Their best days are not behind.”
Hey — I want you to sit with that for a second. Say it out loud if you need to: Their best days are not behind. Now let me say it to you directly: Your best days are not behind you. Not even close.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi. I’m a therapist and a Christian coach. I talk to women who’ve been disappointed, let down, or hurt — sometimes by people, sometimes by life itself. I also work with women who feel their dreams have stalled. Here’s the truth I want you to hear today: disappointment is real, but it is not the final chapter. There is a path forward. Proverbs 4:18 says, “The path of the righteous shines brighter and brighter until the full light of day.” That image matters — it’s gradual, steady, and it gets brighter. Your life can do the same.
This is a short, practical message about keeping hope when things go wrong, and how routines, exercise, prayer and Scripture can help you return to the blueprint God gave you — your vision, your calling, your next season.
Why hope feels fragile — and why it isn’t gone
When disappointment lands — a relationship that failed, a job that collapsed, a door that slammed — your inner world shrinks. Things that once felt possible become heavy. That’s normal. The problem is not feeling hurt. The problem is staying stuck in the hurt.
Hope is not denial. Hope is a posture. It’s a choice to open your hands to what God might still do. It’s also practical. You don’t wait for hope to appear like magic. You build conditions where hope grows.
Routines are the scaffolding of hope
Here’s the most practical thing: routine matters. When life breaks, your nervous system can feel chaotic. Routine is a small, reliable anchor. It re-teaches your body and brain that life can be predictable again. That predictability invites calm. Calm opens space for hope.
Start tiny. I mean tiny. Pick two simple things and do them every day at roughly the same time:
5 minutes of breathwork or prayer first thing.
10 minutes of journaling each evening — write one thing that went ok.
That’s your minimum. Don’t skip it because you feel “too tired” or “not worthy.” Consistency beats intensity. A steady, tiny routine teaches your body that you can be safe again. Once those small habits stick, they give you the energy and clarity to reach for your bigger blueprint — that vision God gave you.
How routines reconnect you to your life blueprint
Remember the vision you had — the career idea, the family dream, the ministry stirring in your heart? Trauma and disappointment don’t erase vision. They bury it under survival behaviours. Routine is the shovel that uncovers it.
A practical map:
Morning: 10 minutes quiet time (Bible + prayer). Ask one question: What step today honours that vision?
Midday: A short walk or movement break. Move with intention for 10–20 minutes.
Evening: Journal 3 things — what you did toward your vision, what you learned, what you’re grateful for.
These small, consistent steps are like deposits into the future you want. Over weeks, the vision becomes tangible again. You start recognising opportunities and making decisions that align with your blueprint.
Why exercise is non-negotiable for hope
Listen: exercise is not vanity. It’s a faith tool. Movement helps regulate your body, lifts your mood, and gives you energy to show up for life. When your body is stuck in fight/flight, your thinking is foggy. Exercise helps reset that.
You don’t need a gym. Try these quick options:
15–20 minute brisk walk outside — the sun changes your hormones.
10 minutes of bodyweight moves at home — squats, lunges, wall push-ups.
Dance to one favourite praise song — 5 minutes, full body.
The aim is to move regularly. Movement releases stress chemicals and makes space for hope to feel real in your body. When your body feels strong, your choices shift. You stop reacting and start responding.
Prayer and Scripture as your anchor
In a world full of negative headlines and social media noise, God’s Word is more needed than ever. Scripture patches the holes that the world pokes into your heart. Prayer is the habit of placing your pain into God’s hands and asking for wisdom and courage.
Make this simple:
Pick a verse — like Proverbs 4:18 — and read it slowly each morning. Let it sink in.
Use short, honest prayers. You don’t need fancy words. Say: “Lord, I’m hurt. I need Your light. Show me one step today.”
Memorise a promise — a short one. Repeat it when the panic or doubt comes.
These are small spiritual disciplines that become spiritual muscles. Over time you won’t just know God loves you — you’ll feel it in the small moments, and that changes everything.
Control your feed: limit the negative inputs
Social media is a sneak thief of peace. It amplifies comparison, fear, and despair. If hope is your goal, curate your inputs.
Set a time limit for scrolling each day. Be strict.
Unfollow accounts that leave you anxious or small.
Follow content that builds faith and practical growth — a short devotional, a 5-minute prayer, a real-life testimony.
Replace “doom scroll” with “soul scroll.” Even ten minutes of God-centred content is better than an hour of anxiety.
Small rituals that build steady faith
Routines don’t need to be rigid. Think of them as tiny rituals that remind you who you are. Here are some practical rituals:
Morning light ritual: open curtains, read one verse, take three deep breaths.
Midday reset: stretch, drink water, say a quick prayer of thanks.
Night close: journal 3 things that didn’t break you today.
These rituals make ordinary days sacred. They keep the light moving forward on your path, like Proverbs promises.
Seek help — it’s brave, not weak
As a therapist, I’ll say this plainly: you don’t have to do deep work alone. Therapy, coaching, safe friendships — they hold you while you learn new ways to love and be loved. A skilled guide helps you sit in the pain without being swallowed by it. That is crucial before you step into healthy romantic love.
If you’re ready for help, look for someone who understands trauma and faith. Don’t settle for quick fixes. Healing is slow, but it’s also the most effective way to attract the life and love you want.
A short practical plan for the week
If you want to try this now, here’s a simple plan for the next seven days:
Day 1: Pick one scripture and write it on a note you can see. (Proverbs 4:18)
Day 2: Start a 10-minute morning routine (verse + 5-minute prayer).
Day 3: Take a 15-minute walk and pray or listen to worship.
Day 4: Journal for 10 minutes about your vision — one sentence.
Day 5: Do a short, honest talk with a trusted friend or a therapist.
Day 6: Limit social media to 20 minutes and curate your feed.
Day 7: Reflect: what small step moved you closer to your vision?
Closing — a quick prayer and promise
Friend, I won’t promise you a perfect ride. Healing is often messy. But God promises a path that grows brighter. If you do the small things — keep a routine, move your body, anchor in Scripture, and protect your mind from negativity — the light starts to change the landscape of your life.
Let’s pray: Lord, help her see the path brightening ahead. Give her the courage to do the small, daily things that grow hope. Restore her vision and bring the right people, doors and opportunities. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Your best days are not behind. The path ahead can shine brighter. Start with one small thing today.
If you want a simple journal to track the steps, download the free reflective journal at marveladeyemi.com.au. I’d love to hear one thing that changed for you this week
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