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Episode Synopsis
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach.
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Download my free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
Host: Today, we're diving into a deeply personal and often misunderstood path: healing as an "affair-child." This is a topic that touches the very core of identity, and if this resonates with you, know that you are seen, loved, and incredibly brave. We're going to explore four powerful signs that you are truly healing and stepping into the beautiful purpose God has for you.
(0:45) Sign 1: You've Processed Your Origin Story and Anchored Your Identity in Christ
The first profound sign you are healing is when you've processed and truly forgiven the manner in which you were informed about your maternity or paternity. For many, this revelation comes as a rude shock, a seismic shift in understanding your past. But as you heal, you begin to normalize your birth. You recognize that it truly doesn't matter how you arrived on this earth; your fundamental identity is anchored firmly in Christ.
You understand that if God allowed you to be here, if He brought you through any initial pain or confusion, and you are still here – sane, alive, and thriving – surely there is a divine purpose for your pain. Your existence is not a mistake; it is part of God's perfect plan. This shift from shock to acceptance, from questioning your origin to affirming your divine identity, is a beautiful mark of emotional healing for Christian women.
(2:15) Sign 2: You've Shifted from Justifying Others to Focusing on Your Own Healing
Secondly, you know you are healing when you've stopped justifying either your mother or father for the affair that led to your birth. This is a powerful pivot. You've shifted from sympathy for their choices to a laser-like focus on yourself, your feelings, and your body. This means you are actively releasing the shame, guilt, and rejection that may have been associated with your birth story.
Instead of carrying their burden, you are now squarely focused on your healing. This isn't about blaming; it's about acknowledging the impact on you and choosing to nurture your own well-being. This step is crucial for overcoming family of origin trauma and reclaiming your emotional landscape.
(3:45) Sign 3: You've Accepted Your Story and Crafted Your Own Narrative
The third sign of profound healing is when you have accepted that you are an "affair-child" and you have become genuinely comfortable with it. In fact, you've taken ownership and created your own empowering narrative around your identity. You realize that you are not responsible for the circumstances of your birth, and therefore, you've completely released any form of guilt associated with it.
You now have the agency and wisdom to choose which family members, siblings, or extended families you want to associate with. This isn't about cutting people off out of anger, but about wisely discerning who contributes to your peace and who respects your boundaries. You are defining your own tribe, rooted in love and acceptance, rather than obligation or unhealed wounds. This is true self-worth in action.
(5:15) Sign 4: You've Quit Blaming and Are Fiercely Engaged in Your Purpose
Finally, a powerful indicator of deep healing is that you have quit blaming your parents, recognizing that their relationship and choices are not your responsibility. You understand that your energy is better spent focusing on your own growth and flourishing.
Instead, you are now keenly engaged in your divine purpose. You recognize, like biblical figures such as Solomon (born from a complex union) and Jephthah (rejected by his brothers), that you have a unique assignment from God. Very often, the stone that the builders rejected has indeed become the cornerstone. You have taken your experience of rejection and transformed it into purpose. You are channeling your energy into building, creating, and living out the calling God has placed on your life. This is the ultimate Christian women's empowerment – turning pain into power for His glory.
(7:00) Conclusion
I invite you to join my soulful restoration retreat for Christian women, here in coastal victoria, Australia. share in the comments below which ones spoke to your heart the most and why. Your story is powerful, and your journey is inspiring.
This path of healing as an an affair-child is a testament to your resilience and God's unwavering love. You are not defined by your origin story, but by the magnificent purpose God has for you.
I'd also love to hear what other topics you'd like me to explore on "Emotional Healing for Christian Women." Please share your suggestions in the comments!
For more free resources to support your well-being and continue your journey of emotional healing, please visit my website, https://www.google.com/search?q=thethrivingheart.com.
And if you are a Christian woman struggling with rejection, shame, guilt, or emotional pain as a result of being an "affair-child" and you need support, I invite you to complete the form linked in my pinned comment and show notes. I will personally contact you to begin your counseling support and help you find the wholeness you deserve.
My mission is to help Christian women like you find profound healing and step into your God-given purpose. If you're looking for a speaker who can deliver a message of hope, healing, and empowerment with authenticity and authority, I would be honored to partner with your church, conference, or organization for speaking engagements. You can email [email protected].
Remember, you are deeply loved, uniquely purposed, and wonderfully made. Keep healing, keep growing, and keep shining your light.
Host: Thank you for joining me on "Emotional Healing for Christian Women." Until next time, stay rooted in His love, and keep thriving. God bless.
KEYWORDS
#BornFromAnAffair
#ChildOfInfidelity
#HealingFamilyWounds
#AffairBabyHealing
#RejectionRecovery
#IllegitimateButLoved
#FamilySecretsHealing
#IdentityHealingJourney #ChristianHealing, #EmotionalHealing, #RejectionRecovery, #christianwomenempowerment , #FamilyOfOriginWounds, #HealthyRelationships, #TraumaHealing, #SelfWorth, #FaithAndHealing, #ChristianTherapy,
Thank You! For listening
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach.
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Download my free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
Host: Today, we're diving into a deeply personal and often misunderstood path: healing as an "affair-child." This is a topic that touches the very core of identity, and if this resonates with you, know that you are seen, loved, and incredibly brave. We're going to explore four powerful signs that you are truly healing and stepping into the beautiful purpose God has for you.
(0:45) Sign 1: You've Processed Your Origin Story and Anchored Your Identity in Christ
The first profound sign you are healing is when you've processed and truly forgiven the manner in which you were informed about your maternity or paternity. For many, this revelation comes as a rude shock, a seismic shift in understanding your past. But as you heal, you begin to normalize your birth. You recognize that it truly doesn't matter how you arrived on this earth; your fundamental identity is anchored firmly in Christ.
You understand that if God allowed you to be here, if He brought you through any initial pain or confusion, and you are still here – sane, alive, and thriving – surely there is a divine purpose for your pain. Your existence is not a mistake; it is part of God's perfect plan. This shift from shock to acceptance, from questioning your origin to affirming your divine identity, is a beautiful mark of emotional healing for Christian women.
(2:15) Sign 2: You've Shifted from Justifying Others to Focusing on Your Own Healing
Secondly, you know you are healing when you've stopped justifying either your mother or father for the affair that led to your birth. This is a powerful pivot. You've shifted from sympathy for their choices to a laser-like focus on yourself, your feelings, and your body. This means you are actively releasing the shame, guilt, and rejection that may have been associated with your birth story.
Instead of carrying their burden, you are now squarely focused on your healing. This isn't about blaming; it's about acknowledging the impact on you and choosing to nurture your own well-being. This step is crucial for overcoming family of origin trauma and reclaiming your emotional landscape.
(3:45) Sign 3: You've Accepted Your Story and Crafted Your Own Narrative
The third sign of profound healing is when you have accepted that you are an "affair-child" and you have become genuinely comfortable with it. In fact, you've taken ownership and created your own empowering narrative around your identity. You realize that you are not responsible for the circumstances of your birth, and therefore, you've completely released any form of guilt associated with it.
You now have the agency and wisdom to choose which family members, siblings, or extended families you want to associate with. This isn't about cutting people off out of anger, but about wisely discerning who contributes to your peace and who respects your boundaries. You are defining your own tribe, rooted in love and acceptance, rather than obligation or unhealed wounds. This is true self-worth in action.
(5:15) Sign 4: You've Quit Blaming and Are Fiercely Engaged in Your Purpose
Finally, a powerful indicator of deep healing is that you have quit blaming your parents, recognizing that their relationship and choices are not your responsibility. You understand that your energy is better spent focusing on your own growth and flourishing.
Instead, you are now keenly engaged in your divine purpose. You recognize, like biblical figures such as Solomon (born from a complex union) and Jephthah (rejected by his brothers), that you have a unique assignment from God. Very often, the stone that the builders rejected has indeed become the cornerstone. You have taken your experience of rejection and transformed it into purpose. You are channeling your energy into building, creating, and living out the calling God has placed on your life. This is the ultimate Christian women's empowerment – turning pain into power for His glory.
(7:00) Conclusion
I invite you to join my soulful restoration retreat for Christian women, here in coastal victoria, Australia. share in the comments below which ones spoke to your heart the most and why. Your story is powerful, and your journey is inspiring.
This path of healing as an an affair-child is a testament to your resilience and God's unwavering love. You are not defined by your origin story, but by the magnificent purpose God has for you.
I'd also love to hear what other topics you'd like me to explore on "Emotional Healing for Christian Women." Please share your suggestions in the comments!
For more free resources to support your well-being and continue your journey of emotional healing, please visit my website, https://www.google.com/search?q=thethrivingheart.com.
And if you are a Christian woman struggling with rejection, shame, guilt, or emotional pain as a result of being an "affair-child" and you need support, I invite you to complete the form linked in my pinned comment and show notes. I will personally contact you to begin your counseling support and help you find the wholeness you deserve.
My mission is to help Christian women like you find profound healing and step into your God-given purpose. If you're looking for a speaker who can deliver a message of hope, healing, and empowerment with authenticity and authority, I would be honored to partner with your church, conference, or organization for speaking engagements. You can email [email protected].
Remember, you are deeply loved, uniquely purposed, and wonderfully made. Keep healing, keep growing, and keep shining your light.
Host: Thank you for joining me on "Emotional Healing for Christian Women." Until next time, stay rooted in His love, and keep thriving. God bless.
KEYWORDS
#BornFromAnAffair
#ChildOfInfidelity
#HealingFamilyWounds
#AffairBabyHealing
#RejectionRecovery
#IllegitimateButLoved
#FamilySecretsHealing
#IdentityHealingJourney #ChristianHealing, #EmotionalHealing, #RejectionRecovery, #christianwomenempowerment , #FamilyOfOriginWounds, #HealthyRelationships, #TraumaHealing, #SelfWorth, #FaithAndHealing, #ChristianTherapy,
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