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Episode Synopsis
Rejection is complex because it often taps into our deepest emotional wounds.
grab a cuppa and notebook. Lets begin this conversation.
Let me know which one speaks to your heart 🤍
Your review on my podcast platform helps others find us—and means so much to me 🌟
Thank you for being part of this movement. Your encouragement is what keeps me going, and I’m deeply grateful 💫 Thank You! For listening.
A place to Exhale | Something beautiful is coming!
Has anyone else noticed how rare it is to find a retreat made for Christian women—where brilliance meets beauty, a faith-anchored space where women of purpose, but also with deep emotional needs can pause, heal, rest and reconnect with God, and be gently restored—body, mind and spirit.
Not a busy conference.
Not just another wellness event.
A retreat with real conversations, meaningful connections, and deep spiritual renewal.
As a Christian psychotherapist, I often hear this same desire from women I journey with:
“I wish there was a space like that for people like me.”
✨ Calling High-Achieving Christian Women in Need of Soulful Restoration ✨
So, I’m prayerfully exploring the idea of a therapeutic retreat created just for us—guided by clinical insight,
Where every conversation feels like divine alignment.
Where laughter, tears, and truth are held gently in sisterhood formed in righteousness.
If this speaks to you, I’d truly love to hear what you’d hope for in a retreat experience. You don’t need to be a Christian—just open to rest, reflection, and meaningful connection.
I’ve created a short form for expressions of interest https://forms.gle/FSxuitvNTT3cBQzt8.
No pressure—just an invitation to shape something meaningful, if the Lord leads.
So grateful for this community! Every response received matters and every suggestion is heard 💖.
You are the encouragement I have to continue this movement.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Download my free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
PODCAST TRANSCRIPT
) The Story of Rejection – My Own Journey
Emotional Healing After Rejection (Christian Perspective)
Many years ago, after graduating from university with a degree in English Language and Literature, I had a close friend. We were "ride or die," singing together in our church's youth choir for years. Our bond felt unbreakable.
After we graduated, she formed a new singing group. They started getting features on television, churches were inviting them to perform, and I, naturally, wished to be a part of it. I discussed it with her, since she hadn't invited me. Her words were clear, and they stung: she told me I wasn't a "good fit." Even more, she said she would no longer be as close with me, as she had "found a new tribe." That hurt. Deeply. It felt like a profound personal rejection.
My mum, of blessed memory, always told me, "Every disappointment is a blessing in disguise for a child of God." So, I held onto that, believing I wasn't meant to be part of that group. I went on seeking a career. At the time, I hadn't found an employment opportunity that felt truly "worth it" for my qualifications, so being part of the group felt like it would keep me busy. But God, as always, had other plans for me.
Not much longer after that, I secured employment with a multinational organization, earning a significant six-figure income – that was huge back then! It truly helped meet my needs and my family's needs at the time. Just a few months later, my husband proposed, and I began planning our wedding. Fast forward to today, and I'm a licensed psychotherapist living in Australia. Purpose had taken me miles and continents away from my old friends. Perhaps if I had been a member of that group, I might not have stepped into my true calling today. I sing well, but singing is not my primary assignment. I love what I do now – helping people's emotional needs, restoring hearts, and helping individuals and families rewrite their stories. I couldn't trade this for anything else.
(3:30) What is Rejection, Emotionally? A Psychotherapist's View
My story, like so many of yours, highlights that rejection is far more than just a "no." As a psychotherapist specializing in emotional healing for Christian women, I can tell you that rejection is a complex, multifaceted feeling that strikes at the very core of our being. It's not merely disappointment; it's a profound blow to our self-worth, our sense of identity, and our fundamental need for belonging.
When we experience rejection, especially from those we care about or situations we desire, it can trigger primal fears: the fear of abandonment, the fear of not being enough, or the fear of being unlovable. Our brains actually process social rejection similarly to physical pain – it literally hurts. This emotional pain can be amplified for Christian women who may also grapple with questions like, "Am I rejected by God?" or "Why isn't God opening this door?" It touches on our attachment wounds from childhood, making us feel unsafe or unworthy of connection.
(4:50) Signs of Unhealed Rejection: Recognizing the Patterns
So, how does unhealed rejection show up in our lives? It’s often subtle, weaving itself into our daily patterns. Here are some signs you might be carrying the weight of past rejections:
People-Pleasing: Constantly seeking approval, afraid to say no, or sacrificing your needs to keep others happy. This stems from a deep fear that if you're not "good enough," you'll be rejected again.
Conflict Avoidance: You'd rather stay silent or agree than voice your true feelings, fearing disagreement will lead to abandonment.
Self-Doubt & Low Self-Esteem: A persistent inner critic, a feeling that you're not capable, or a general sense of not being "enough" for love, success, or friendship. This is a common manifestation of unhealed wounds.
Difficulty Trusting: Guarding your heart excessively, struggling to open up, or expecting others to eventually hurt you. This impacts healthy Christian relationships.
Hyper-Vigilance: Constantly scanning for signs of disapproval or impending abandonment in others' words or actions.
Withdrawal: Pulling away from social situations or potential relationships to avoid the risk of further pain.
Spiritual Struggle: Questioning God's love, feeling overlooked by Him, or struggling to believe in His good plans for your life because of past disappointments.
Rejection is complex because it often taps into our deepest family of origin emotional wounds. If you grew up feeling unseen or unheard, rejection in adulthood can feel like a confirmation of those early hurts, reinforcing a belief that you are fundamentally "not enough."
(6:45) The Path to Recovery: Healing from Rejection Biblically
The good news, my dear sister, is that healing from rejection is absolutely possible, especially within a Christian framework. Here are steps you can take:
Acknowledge and Lament: Don't spiritualize away the pain. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, sadness, and anger. Bring these raw emotions to God in prayer, just as the psalmists did. He can handle your honest lament.
Reframe with God's Truth: Actively combat the lies of rejection with God's Word. Remind yourself that your identity is in Christ, not in human approval or external circumstances. "You are chosen, holy, and dearly loved." (Colossians 3:12).
Process the Pain: This is where professional support, like trauma-informed therapy or EMDR therapy, can be incredibly powerful. It helps you process the emotional charge of past rejections, especially those linked to childhood trauma, so they no longer control your present. Journaling, talking to a trusted friend or mentor, and allowing yourself to grieve are also vital.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say "no" to what depletes you and "yes" to what honors your worth. This protects your heart and teaches others how to treat you.
Cultivate Healthy Community: Intentionally seek out relationships where you feel safe, seen, and celebrated. This rebuilds trust and counters the isolation rejection can cause.
Embrace Your Purpose: Just as my own rejection led me to my true calling, ask God to reveal the purpose in your pain. Sometimes, a closed door is God redirecting you to a wider, more fulfilling path.
(8:45) Signs You're Healing from Rejection
How will you know you're recovering? You'll start to see beautiful shifts:
You can feel emotions related to rejection without being completely overwhelmed by them.
The volume of negative self-talk decreases significantly.
Your self-worth and confidence grow, rooted in Christ, not external validation.
You can set and maintain healthy boundaries with greater ease.
You're able to trust appropriately, discerning safe relationships.
You feel a sense of peace and contentment in God's plan for your life, even if the path isn't what you expected.
You no longer take every "no" or perceived slight as a personal indictment of your worth.
(9:30) Conclusion
My dear sister, rejection is a part of the human experience, but it doesn't have to define your future. God is in the business of healing, restoring, and redirecting. He can turn your disappointments into divine appointments, just as He did for me. Your journey of emotional healing is an act of faith, preparing your heart for the healthy, loving relationships He has for you.
If you're ready to dive deeper into healing from rejection and address those family of origin emotional wounds, I invite you to explore the resources on my website, https://www.google.com/search?q=thethrivingheart.com. You can also book a 1:1 session with me to walk through your unique story with trauma-informed support.
Remember, you are not too much, you are not overlooked, and you are deeply loved by a God who has a beautiful purpose for your life. Keep trusting, keep healing, and keep stepping into the wholeness He designed for you.
Hashtags:
#ChristianHealing
#EmotionalHealing
#RejectionRecovery
#ChristianWomen
#FamilyOfOriginWounds
#HealthyRelationships
#TraumaHealing
#SelfWorth
#FaithAndHealing
#ChristianTherapy
grab a cuppa and notebook. Lets begin this conversation.
Let me know which one speaks to your heart 🤍
Your review on my podcast platform helps others find us—and means so much to me 🌟
Thank you for being part of this movement. Your encouragement is what keeps me going, and I’m deeply grateful 💫 Thank You! For listening.
A place to Exhale | Something beautiful is coming!
Has anyone else noticed how rare it is to find a retreat made for Christian women—where brilliance meets beauty, a faith-anchored space where women of purpose, but also with deep emotional needs can pause, heal, rest and reconnect with God, and be gently restored—body, mind and spirit.
Not a busy conference.
Not just another wellness event.
A retreat with real conversations, meaningful connections, and deep spiritual renewal.
As a Christian psychotherapist, I often hear this same desire from women I journey with:
“I wish there was a space like that for people like me.”
✨ Calling High-Achieving Christian Women in Need of Soulful Restoration ✨
So, I’m prayerfully exploring the idea of a therapeutic retreat created just for us—guided by clinical insight,
Where every conversation feels like divine alignment.
Where laughter, tears, and truth are held gently in sisterhood formed in righteousness.
If this speaks to you, I’d truly love to hear what you’d hope for in a retreat experience. You don’t need to be a Christian—just open to rest, reflection, and meaningful connection.
I’ve created a short form for expressions of interest https://forms.gle/FSxuitvNTT3cBQzt8.
No pressure—just an invitation to shape something meaningful, if the Lord leads.
So grateful for this community! Every response received matters and every suggestion is heard 💖.
You are the encouragement I have to continue this movement.
I’m Marvel C. Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Download my free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
PODCAST TRANSCRIPT
) The Story of Rejection – My Own Journey
Emotional Healing After Rejection (Christian Perspective)
Many years ago, after graduating from university with a degree in English Language and Literature, I had a close friend. We were "ride or die," singing together in our church's youth choir for years. Our bond felt unbreakable.
After we graduated, she formed a new singing group. They started getting features on television, churches were inviting them to perform, and I, naturally, wished to be a part of it. I discussed it with her, since she hadn't invited me. Her words were clear, and they stung: she told me I wasn't a "good fit." Even more, she said she would no longer be as close with me, as she had "found a new tribe." That hurt. Deeply. It felt like a profound personal rejection.
My mum, of blessed memory, always told me, "Every disappointment is a blessing in disguise for a child of God." So, I held onto that, believing I wasn't meant to be part of that group. I went on seeking a career. At the time, I hadn't found an employment opportunity that felt truly "worth it" for my qualifications, so being part of the group felt like it would keep me busy. But God, as always, had other plans for me.
Not much longer after that, I secured employment with a multinational organization, earning a significant six-figure income – that was huge back then! It truly helped meet my needs and my family's needs at the time. Just a few months later, my husband proposed, and I began planning our wedding. Fast forward to today, and I'm a licensed psychotherapist living in Australia. Purpose had taken me miles and continents away from my old friends. Perhaps if I had been a member of that group, I might not have stepped into my true calling today. I sing well, but singing is not my primary assignment. I love what I do now – helping people's emotional needs, restoring hearts, and helping individuals and families rewrite their stories. I couldn't trade this for anything else.
(3:30) What is Rejection, Emotionally? A Psychotherapist's View
My story, like so many of yours, highlights that rejection is far more than just a "no." As a psychotherapist specializing in emotional healing for Christian women, I can tell you that rejection is a complex, multifaceted feeling that strikes at the very core of our being. It's not merely disappointment; it's a profound blow to our self-worth, our sense of identity, and our fundamental need for belonging.
When we experience rejection, especially from those we care about or situations we desire, it can trigger primal fears: the fear of abandonment, the fear of not being enough, or the fear of being unlovable. Our brains actually process social rejection similarly to physical pain – it literally hurts. This emotional pain can be amplified for Christian women who may also grapple with questions like, "Am I rejected by God?" or "Why isn't God opening this door?" It touches on our attachment wounds from childhood, making us feel unsafe or unworthy of connection.
(4:50) Signs of Unhealed Rejection: Recognizing the Patterns
So, how does unhealed rejection show up in our lives? It’s often subtle, weaving itself into our daily patterns. Here are some signs you might be carrying the weight of past rejections:
People-Pleasing: Constantly seeking approval, afraid to say no, or sacrificing your needs to keep others happy. This stems from a deep fear that if you're not "good enough," you'll be rejected again.
Conflict Avoidance: You'd rather stay silent or agree than voice your true feelings, fearing disagreement will lead to abandonment.
Self-Doubt & Low Self-Esteem: A persistent inner critic, a feeling that you're not capable, or a general sense of not being "enough" for love, success, or friendship. This is a common manifestation of unhealed wounds.
Difficulty Trusting: Guarding your heart excessively, struggling to open up, or expecting others to eventually hurt you. This impacts healthy Christian relationships.
Hyper-Vigilance: Constantly scanning for signs of disapproval or impending abandonment in others' words or actions.
Withdrawal: Pulling away from social situations or potential relationships to avoid the risk of further pain.
Spiritual Struggle: Questioning God's love, feeling overlooked by Him, or struggling to believe in His good plans for your life because of past disappointments.
Rejection is complex because it often taps into our deepest family of origin emotional wounds. If you grew up feeling unseen or unheard, rejection in adulthood can feel like a confirmation of those early hurts, reinforcing a belief that you are fundamentally "not enough."
(6:45) The Path to Recovery: Healing from Rejection Biblically
The good news, my dear sister, is that healing from rejection is absolutely possible, especially within a Christian framework. Here are steps you can take:
Acknowledge and Lament: Don't spiritualize away the pain. Allow yourself to feel the hurt, sadness, and anger. Bring these raw emotions to God in prayer, just as the psalmists did. He can handle your honest lament.
Reframe with God's Truth: Actively combat the lies of rejection with God's Word. Remind yourself that your identity is in Christ, not in human approval or external circumstances. "You are chosen, holy, and dearly loved." (Colossians 3:12).
Process the Pain: This is where professional support, like trauma-informed therapy or EMDR therapy, can be incredibly powerful. It helps you process the emotional charge of past rejections, especially those linked to childhood trauma, so they no longer control your present. Journaling, talking to a trusted friend or mentor, and allowing yourself to grieve are also vital.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say "no" to what depletes you and "yes" to what honors your worth. This protects your heart and teaches others how to treat you.
Cultivate Healthy Community: Intentionally seek out relationships where you feel safe, seen, and celebrated. This rebuilds trust and counters the isolation rejection can cause.
Embrace Your Purpose: Just as my own rejection led me to my true calling, ask God to reveal the purpose in your pain. Sometimes, a closed door is God redirecting you to a wider, more fulfilling path.
(8:45) Signs You're Healing from Rejection
How will you know you're recovering? You'll start to see beautiful shifts:
You can feel emotions related to rejection without being completely overwhelmed by them.
The volume of negative self-talk decreases significantly.
Your self-worth and confidence grow, rooted in Christ, not external validation.
You can set and maintain healthy boundaries with greater ease.
You're able to trust appropriately, discerning safe relationships.
You feel a sense of peace and contentment in God's plan for your life, even if the path isn't what you expected.
You no longer take every "no" or perceived slight as a personal indictment of your worth.
(9:30) Conclusion
My dear sister, rejection is a part of the human experience, but it doesn't have to define your future. God is in the business of healing, restoring, and redirecting. He can turn your disappointments into divine appointments, just as He did for me. Your journey of emotional healing is an act of faith, preparing your heart for the healthy, loving relationships He has for you.
If you're ready to dive deeper into healing from rejection and address those family of origin emotional wounds, I invite you to explore the resources on my website, https://www.google.com/search?q=thethrivingheart.com. You can also book a 1:1 session with me to walk through your unique story with trauma-informed support.
Remember, you are not too much, you are not overlooked, and you are deeply loved by a God who has a beautiful purpose for your life. Keep trusting, keep healing, and keep stepping into the wholeness He designed for you.
Hashtags:
#ChristianHealing
#EmotionalHealing
#RejectionRecovery
#ChristianWomen
#FamilyOfOriginWounds
#HealthyRelationships
#TraumaHealing
#SelfWorth
#FaithAndHealing
#ChristianTherapy
In God we trust