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Listen "EP. 42| MARRIED BUT LONELY (PART 2 | FOUR KEYS TO RECLAIMING YOUR HEART"
Episode Synopsis
You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone.
That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re discussing int his episode.
I hope this blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or Couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone.
That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today.
Welcome back, beautiful sisters. Last week, we exposed the silent ache of being married but emotionally abandoned. We talked about detaching with wisdom… not to escape the marriage, but to stop losing yourself inside it.
But detaching is only step one.
Today, we step into the deeper work — the rebuilding, the reclaiming, the rising.
Because if you don’t do this inner work, you’ll swing between emotional extremes… shutting down, acting out, or even walking away from a marriage that still has potential.
Before we go further, let’s pause with compassion.
Most emotionally unavailable husbands aren’t cruel — they’re unequipped. Many come from families with blurred boundaries, enmeshment, or emotional silence. They’ve never learned how to tune into their own feelings, let alone yours.
Haven said that… his journey is his responsibility.
Your journey is yours.
And today, we’re talking about your healing.
Key 1: Stop Circling — Prioritise Your Healing
I say this with love and authority as a marriage counsellor:
Press pause on couples therapy.
Why?
Because when you’re detaching, couples therapy can keep you trapped in the same loop — waiting for him to “get it,” hoping he’ll finally validate you, trying to change someone who is not emotionally ready.
Right now, the work is INWARD.
This is the season to heal the original wounds:
🩶 rejection
🩶 abandonment
🩶 unworthiness
🩶 the grief of not being met emotionally
This is where your power starts to rise.
Key 2: Guard Your Heart (Yes — This Is Spiritual Warfare)
Sis, your marriage may feel like the battleground, but your heart is the actual target.
When emotional intimacy breaks with our lovers -our husbands, women often start questioning everything —
their identity, their lovability, even their faith.
The enemy wants your confidence.
Your hope. Your purpose. Your Calling. Your gifts.
Your spiritual clarity.
But the war is won through simple, consistent practices:
✨ honest prayer
✨ grounding meditation
✨ daily declarations over your future
✨ choosing truth over emotional chaos
Guarding your heart is wisdom.
✨ Quick Pause — A Message for the Woman Feeling Lost
If you’ve been stuck in that exhausting cycle of explaining yourself… crying silently… feeling invisible… and you’re ready for REAL healing, I want to invite you into my Emotional Healing For Christian Women’s group
This is where we break the patterns, rebuild your identity, and restore your peace.
If that tug in your chest is saying “I need this,” follow it.
The link is in the description. 💛
Now… back into the work.
Key 3: Get Clear on Your Needs in This Season
Most women don’t know what they need — because we’ve been trained to be last.
But your needs change with your season.
And clarity is power.
Take yourself on a date.
Or book a solo retreat.
Sit with a journal and ask:
“What do I need right now — emotionally, spiritually, financially, socially?”
Write down 10 core needs for this season.
Here’s what usually happens:
You realise many of your needs are not dependent on your husband — he’s only responsible for supporting your journey, not completing it.
This is where you begin to reclaim yourself.
Key 4: Find Safe Sisterhood (Your Heart Needs It)
You need one safe woman —
not a gossip partner,
not someone who’ll inflame you,
but someone mature, grounded, faith-filled.
A woman who can hold space for you.
Validate you.
Strengthen you.
Because the loneliness inside a marriage is heavy.
And you’re not meant to carry it in isolation.
If you can’t find that woman, find a Christian counsellor.
If your mum or aunty is safe, lean into that.
Your heart needs anchoring.
✨ Summary
Sis, this work is not easy — but it is transformational.
✔️ Stop circling in couples counselling
✔️ Guard your heart fiercely
✔️ Identify your needs clearly
✔️ Find a safe woman who can validate and ground you
You deserve peace.
You deserve emotional safety.
And you deserve to feel like yourself again.
#MarriedButLonely, #EmotionalAvoidance, #ChristianMarriage, #Detachment, #DecenteringMarriage, #EmotionalHealing, #SpiritualWarfare, #GuardingYourHeart, #RejectionRecovery, #SelfWorth #HealingWounds, #RejectionRecovery, #AbandonmentIssues, #ClarifyYourNeeds, #StopCouplesCounseling, #SisterCircle, #WomensMinistry, #SelfWorth, #Boundaries
That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re discussing int his episode.
I hope this blesses you.
Welcome to Emotional Healing for Christian Women.
Thank You! For listening/Watching.
I’m Marvel Adeyemi, a licensed Psychotherapist and Faith -Based Coach who supports Christian women.
✅ Join my soulful restoration Christian women's retreat
Imagine waking up without the weight of shame, fear, and loneliness. Imagine finally feeling worthy, confident, and at peace — and doing it with God by your side. That's the healing we begin together
Perhaps you’re struggling with low self-worth, rejection, persistent anxiety, spiritual confusion, neglect, abandonment, or feeling disconnected from your purpose… If you're afraid of repeating painful patterns in parenting or relationships… If your past still triggers you — please know that healing is possible.
Through biblical lens, I’ll help you rebuild self-worth, trust, peace and clarity — so you can feel empowered, beautiful, and confident.
WHAT NEXT?
✅ Get free resources for guidance and healing from past wounds and finding clarity and purpose.
✅ Order my new book, Beyond the Hurt. E-book and Paper back
📌Work with me 1:1: book a session: Book Here
✅Please leave a comment/review, subscribe/follow and share.
✅ Join my private face book group
✅ Book a 1:1 Coaching Call if you’re ready to dive deeper into your healing journey. https://marveladeyemi.com.au/
✅ Send me an email
Connect with me, online for Christian Counselling and coaching. I support high-achieving Christian women or Couples in Ballarat, Melbourne Victoria- Australia, and globally who are ready to transform their relationships through inner child healing and faith-led wisdom.
📢Disclaimer: I share content from my reflections for educational purpose only and should not replace professional therapy. If you need immediate support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.
TRANSCRIPT
You can sleep beside someone every night and still feel completely alone.
That’s the reality for so many women in emotionally one-sided marriages — and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today.
Welcome back, beautiful sisters. Last week, we exposed the silent ache of being married but emotionally abandoned. We talked about detaching with wisdom… not to escape the marriage, but to stop losing yourself inside it.
But detaching is only step one.
Today, we step into the deeper work — the rebuilding, the reclaiming, the rising.
Because if you don’t do this inner work, you’ll swing between emotional extremes… shutting down, acting out, or even walking away from a marriage that still has potential.
Before we go further, let’s pause with compassion.
Most emotionally unavailable husbands aren’t cruel — they’re unequipped. Many come from families with blurred boundaries, enmeshment, or emotional silence. They’ve never learned how to tune into their own feelings, let alone yours.
Haven said that… his journey is his responsibility.
Your journey is yours.
And today, we’re talking about your healing.
Key 1: Stop Circling — Prioritise Your Healing
I say this with love and authority as a marriage counsellor:
Press pause on couples therapy.
Why?
Because when you’re detaching, couples therapy can keep you trapped in the same loop — waiting for him to “get it,” hoping he’ll finally validate you, trying to change someone who is not emotionally ready.
Right now, the work is INWARD.
This is the season to heal the original wounds:
🩶 rejection
🩶 abandonment
🩶 unworthiness
🩶 the grief of not being met emotionally
This is where your power starts to rise.
Key 2: Guard Your Heart (Yes — This Is Spiritual Warfare)
Sis, your marriage may feel like the battleground, but your heart is the actual target.
When emotional intimacy breaks with our lovers -our husbands, women often start questioning everything —
their identity, their lovability, even their faith.
The enemy wants your confidence.
Your hope. Your purpose. Your Calling. Your gifts.
Your spiritual clarity.
But the war is won through simple, consistent practices:
✨ honest prayer
✨ grounding meditation
✨ daily declarations over your future
✨ choosing truth over emotional chaos
Guarding your heart is wisdom.
✨ Quick Pause — A Message for the Woman Feeling Lost
If you’ve been stuck in that exhausting cycle of explaining yourself… crying silently… feeling invisible… and you’re ready for REAL healing, I want to invite you into my Emotional Healing For Christian Women’s group
This is where we break the patterns, rebuild your identity, and restore your peace.
If that tug in your chest is saying “I need this,” follow it.
The link is in the description. 💛
Now… back into the work.
Key 3: Get Clear on Your Needs in This Season
Most women don’t know what they need — because we’ve been trained to be last.
But your needs change with your season.
And clarity is power.
Take yourself on a date.
Or book a solo retreat.
Sit with a journal and ask:
“What do I need right now — emotionally, spiritually, financially, socially?”
Write down 10 core needs for this season.
Here’s what usually happens:
You realise many of your needs are not dependent on your husband — he’s only responsible for supporting your journey, not completing it.
This is where you begin to reclaim yourself.
Key 4: Find Safe Sisterhood (Your Heart Needs It)
You need one safe woman —
not a gossip partner,
not someone who’ll inflame you,
but someone mature, grounded, faith-filled.
A woman who can hold space for you.
Validate you.
Strengthen you.
Because the loneliness inside a marriage is heavy.
And you’re not meant to carry it in isolation.
If you can’t find that woman, find a Christian counsellor.
If your mum or aunty is safe, lean into that.
Your heart needs anchoring.
✨ Summary
Sis, this work is not easy — but it is transformational.
✔️ Stop circling in couples counselling
✔️ Guard your heart fiercely
✔️ Identify your needs clearly
✔️ Find a safe woman who can validate and ground you
You deserve peace.
You deserve emotional safety.
And you deserve to feel like yourself again.
#MarriedButLonely, #EmotionalAvoidance, #ChristianMarriage, #Detachment, #DecenteringMarriage, #EmotionalHealing, #SpiritualWarfare, #GuardingYourHeart, #RejectionRecovery, #SelfWorth #HealingWounds, #RejectionRecovery, #AbandonmentIssues, #ClarifyYourNeeds, #StopCouplesCounseling, #SisterCircle, #WomensMinistry, #SelfWorth, #Boundaries
In God we trust