There are two subjects they don’t teach in school that you have to learn as an adult: personal finance and… BOUNDARIES. Jen has an established pattern of inviting people into her life, with no credentials needed, and then harboring resentments when they inadvertently violate her nonexistent boundaries. Betina’s MO was to say nothing for the first few transgressions, then to explode in a way where the punishment didn’t fit the crime. Today’s discussion explores the concept of boundaries not as black and white but as fluid, circumstantial, and always evolving.0:00 Intros2:00 Jen’s Boundary Temp Check06:38 Getting to a place of grace before a hard conversation can lead to growth11:30 Betina’s Boundary Temp Check12:45 Sharing about setting a podcasting boundary17:45 Co-host appreciation18:30 The boundary spectrum19:25 How Betina destroyed relationships in the past21:10 The power in processing and safety in wise counsel22:30 Betina as a mama bear/right but wrong24:35 Different levels of boundary work/the fluidity of boundaries25:35 Jen’s slow processing style/people-pleasing32:00 Betina is not allowing anyone to break her child’s spirit32:40 Jen showing compassion to an issue that Betina was having with another person34:33 Taking things personally/the price tag of anger38:30 Young Jen wanted a mentor44:18 Jen recently learned that a boundary is a request4510: Betina agrees, BUT how the person responds informs your next actions53:00 Willingness means a lot in a relationship56:54 Red/Yellow/Green Theory in relationship1:02:00 Jen’s aversion to the objectification of women1:03:25 Feminism vs Femininity1:07:00 Respecting each other's differences/the power of knowing your values1:09:00 The power of an honest no1:16:30 Conflicting valuesRecipes: Boundary BowlJen’s Thai Peanut BowlSlice cucumbers, carrots, scallions, avocado, and place over rice or noodlesPeanut SaucePeanut butterSoy sauceBrown sugarLime juiceGarlicGingerCoconut milkChili sauceBetina’s Veggie BowlChop your veggies:Tomato, shitake mushrooms, yam, onion, bell pepperSautee using avocado oilSeasoning:Himalayan sea salt, Cajun seasoning, pepperSliced carrots, spinach, and kale. OptionalCan of black beansPlate over cauliflower riceCilantro lime dressing1 small AvocadoLime juice¼ cup Greek yogurt½ cup waterCilantroGarlic pastSea saltAnd blendMusic Credits:00:00 “For My Good” - AFTR18:06 “Bring Me Home Again” - OTE34:15 “The Spirit” - Daniel Fridell49:40 “Good Things Will Come Eventually” - DJ DENZ The Rooster65:37 “Love Me Like That” - Deanz84:25 “My Backbeat” - Gregory David97:21 “Love Me Like That” - DeanzFollow on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/whatsthetemp_Follow on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61574886555852Subscribe on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@WhatstheTempPodcastContact:[email protected]

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