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Episode Synopsis
In this episode, Bill and Marty focus on the intriguing topic of complaints. Bill introduces the concept as the 'gifted complaint' and explores how addressing our inner complaints through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) can uncover deeper truths and bring about emotional healing. Martin shares a personal experience from his own coaching sessions, and the duo discusses how identifying and understanding these internal conflicts can transform and liberate our true selves. Chapters:00:00 Introduction to the True You Podcast00:33 Exploring the Topic of Complaints01:23 Group Exercise on Complaints03:56 Personal Complaints and Reflections08:28 Understanding Internal Family Systems14:05 Addressing Concerns and Building Trust21:42 Understanding the Complaint22:12 Exploring Parental Regrets22:52 Shifting Perspectives25:10 Connecting with the Past28:20 The Gift of Complaint31:58 Layers of Identity36:59 Embracing Parts with Compassion40:14 Resources for Further Exploration41:44 Final ReflectionsLinks and Resources:• ‘ Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families - adultchildren.org• ‘The Gift of Our Compulsions’ by Mary O'Malley - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1577314700• True You Podcast Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast • If you would like to be a guest on the True You podcast, please complete this guest application: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdbHITeLbAD98TRhFPZzK2kStuHos5HFjOGBWAaTJjgVcEAGA/viewform • Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/ • Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/ • Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com • ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/ • Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO • Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd • Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com • Contact Marty - [email protected]• Contact Bill - [email protected]🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube! #recovery #ifs #internalfamilysystems #ifscoach #ifscoaching #ifsmodel #partswork #partsworkcoach #podcast #ifspodcast #selfhelf #selfimprovement #leadership #richardschwartz #groupcoaching #ifsgroups #compassionateresults
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