Society hampers us with loads of pressure on what we should be and should have accomplished at a certain age. We glorify a culture of nonstop grinding, thinking that there’s no other way to reach our goals. However, we still wonder why so many of us feel unfulfilled and burnt out despite pursuing our dreams. We do so much to please others without leaving anything for ourselves. But at the end of the day, is all the grind still worth it? In the tenth episode of Returning Home, Elise shares a personal story on resentment, burnout, and quitting. She sheds light on the constant pressure the world imposes on us to do more and give more. Without setting boundaries in this pursuit, feelings of resentment thrive. Finally, Elise highlights that prioritizing yourself should always come first — and there's no shame in that decision.  If you want to know when to start taking a step back for yourself, then this episode is for you! Here are three reasons why you should listen to this episode: Learn where the mindset of wanting to do more comes from. Discover how you can free yourself from resentment and burnout. Understand the importance of recognizing your limitations and capabilities. Resources Listen to previous episodes of Returning Home: Episode 5 | Trusting Yourself Means Taking Responsibility Try StairMaster® Follow The Nap Ministry on Instagram! Slow Down To Speed Up: Visualization Masterclass Sign up for Elise’s Newsletter and receive a FREE PDF to start your self-compassion journey! Connect with Elise on Instagram: @elisekindya Episode Highlights [04:13] Taking Pressure Off Yourself The world is constantly asking us for more of ourselves. Start making yourself unavailable to things that no longer serve you. Take a step back from all the things you’re “supposed to do.” and take a huge step toward self-care.  [05:51] Open Yourself Up to More Love Love doesn’t equate to being productive for X amount of hours per day. Embodying more love means living your life and connecting with your feelings and relationships. Focus on your fulfillment and contentment instead of your work performance. Prioritizing productivity goes back to our education and family values. The mindset of “staying productive” antagonizes having free time. [07:50] On Resentment Resentment is an emotion opposite to joy, love, excitement, and contentment. You can only start giving from your overflow when you fill yourself up with love and happiness. Resentment comes from a place of scarcity, fear, and anger. [08:59] Quitting and Freeing Yourself from Resentment Elise left her last full-time job four years ago. Since she felt overwhelming resistance entering into her work, she put in her notice three months before her term ended.  She transitioned to being a therapist in an outpatient office, but it didn't work out as she expected. The experience took her on a winding path, doing interesting jobs, training, and hobbies. Elise: “We need to see ourselves in this cycle of giving and receiving. Once we've given, it is time for us to receive, so that we can give and then receive and then give.” Elise finally permitted herself to start her own therapy practice. It gave her more stability, control, and joy. [11:36] The Need to Do More The need to be doing more is always in Elise's mind. She feels the same even as she started a private practice. She feels like she has been working more than a 9 to 5 because of the other things she's trying to build. There’s this notion in the wellness coaching and therapy community of needing to teach others what you are knowledgeable of. Tune in to the full episode to hear about the conversation that became Elise’s breaking point! [15:47] How Resentment Builds Up Elise’s nervous system is wired to fight and see the worst in people. Her predisposition is that she needs to protect herself. She felt the need to keep pushing herself to feel valid and worthy. Society is performative. It reinforces and encourages us to keep working until we're exhausted. Resentment built up over feeling rejected and not getting the reciprocation she wanted from her work. [17:53] Choosing Healing Elise decided to quit spending her spare time trying to do multiple things for her business and prioritized healing. She realized she was meant to be a therapist, space holder, and mentor.  Inviting people who were not aligned with her in her space did not feel right. Elise: “The people who get it, get it, and the people who don't, don't.” She’s not going to chase people who don’t appreciate or understand her work anymore. She’s currently focusing on pouring into herself to get from a place of overflowing. [20:14] Setting a Boundary for Yourself Elise has been feeling tired a lot lately, and she realized she didn't need to feel this way. She took two weeks off to remove herself from that place but ended up stressing about working most of that time. Set boundaries by categorizing work into different priority levels.  The thought of shedding out all her liabilities made her feel immediately better. But it almost made her fall back into that routine. The root cause of falling into the cycle of performing is outside influence and pressure to be productive. [24:35] Recognize What’s Worth Doing It’s important to recognize what’s worth doing. You get to decide and take responsibility for the quality of your life. The online space has helped people see the limitless potential of having access to prospective customers. But we don’t need to be available to everyone all the time. We all have limitations. It’s critical to recognize them to determine your capabilities and what you want in life. Tune in to the full episode to hear Elise’s recipe analogy! [28:00] Recognize Your Limitations and Capacity Tune in to the full podcast to hear about @thenapministry’s post that resonated with Elise! Elise: “You get to choose the quality of your life, and you don't have to give, and give, and give until you're there's nothing left.” You have to give for yourself first before giving to other people. Get in touch with your limitations and capabilities. Then, you can reach your fullest potential. You don’t have to do all the things outside pressure is telling you to do. [30:15] Quitting and Finding Peace Elise is quitting to pursue what truly fulfills her without chasing anything anymore. Live your life with the intention of experiencing true peace. Give yourself permission to prioritize yourself and your well-being. You can only give to other people from your overflow when you prioritize your joy, contentment, and quality of life. Enjoyed this Episode? If you enjoyed this podcast, please make sure to subscribe and share it! Leave an episode review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning in to this episode, don’t forget to leave us a review. You can also share what you’ve learned today with your friends to help them embody their true, authentic selves. Anything is possible when you return home to yourself.  Have any questions or lightbulb moments? I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to hit me up on Instagram or send an email at [email protected].  Thank you so much for listening! For more episode updates, visit my website.  

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