Listen "Coaching Leaders of Tired Groups - Part 2"
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Promo: Making TimeYou have the same 24 hours in your day as the most accomplished people in the world. So why doesn't it feel that way? Follow along on this special 6 episode series as we take a look at how to make more time. By following biblical principles and taking a look at what you really want, Making Time shares the secret to having all the time you need... with a little help from some friends.Learn more and download group guides at https://lumivoz.com/making-time/For questions, comments, or sharing your tips on how to make more time, reach out to makingtime@lumivoz.com------------------------------------------------------------------------------Show Notes:The Art of Gathering: How we meet and why it matters by Priya Parker The Essential Guide for Small Group Leaders by Bill SearchWhy does a group get tired? •Leader begins to coast•Meeting becomes routine•Relationships hit a plateau•Purpose is lost#1 Leader Coasting Am I practicing “Generous Authority”? – [Priya Parker] “’Chill’ is selfishness disguised as kindness.” - Priya Parker Generous Authority Serves others by: 1.Protecting group members 2.Equalizing group members 3.Inter-Connecting group members We practice Generous Authority by:1.Practicing good MANNERS in the group 2.Reminding all of the “RULES” 3.Encourage “Sprout” Speeches not “Stump” Speeches Now What?1. Re-affirm Covenant 2. Have tough conversations3. Re-up as the leader or get out 4. Share Leadership #2 Meeting Routine “The room is doing 80% of the job” – Jerry Seinfeld Venue Matters 1.The space should be a symbol of reason for meeting 2.The space should bring out desired behaviors and discourage those you don’t 3.Consider density Format Matters 1.Mix it up2.Curtail the dull parts 3.Try different curriculum Now What? 1. Rotate Hosting 2. Share testimony3. Serve together4. Choose an unlikely meeting place #3 Relationships Plateaued Why does this happen? 1.We stop being curious about others 2.We decide how far we will go relationally3.Potential conflict zones are avoided 4.We don’t feel safe What can you do about it? 1.Don’t avoid the awkward – embrace it 2.Utilize GOOD ice-breakers 3.Encourage people to share what no one in the group would guess/ know about them4.Talk about the forbidden subjects of politics, sex, and religion 5.Don’t stop conflict but guide it 6.Navigate underlying conflicts Now What? 1. Split by gender 2. Subgroup for prayer3. Retreat4. Day trip, local restaurants, or local tourism #4 Lost Purpose “A good gathering purpose should be ‘disputable’” – The Art of Gathering by Parker Start by asking “WHY are we meeting?” 1.First, ask the church leadership 2.Reverse engineer current meeting and compare to stated goal 3.Who is this for? Second ask “Why are WE meeting?” 1.Is our goal the same as the leadership’s goal? 2.Do we have a different goal? Third, re-state and re-affirm your purpose 1.Discuss the purpose as a group 2.Arrive at consensus3.Everyone has to re-up That didn’t work. Now what? How to End Your Group (Page 87, Essential Guide for Small Group Leaders) 1.Understand all groups come to a natural end 2.Get input from group members3.Ask everyone to make a personal plan 4.Plan a final meeting and put it on the calendar5.End the group in a prayer circle6.Don’t forget to tell your pastor or small group coach that your group has ended Recommended Resources: Dare to Lead by Brene BrownThe Art of Gathering By ParkerEssential Guide for Small Group Leaders by Search Questions?
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