Hey ladies, stop apologizing! With Professor Maja

11/05/2021 1h 1min Temporada 1 Episodio 17
Hey ladies, stop apologizing! With Professor Maja

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Apologies help to ease tension, resolve conflict. Don’t take apologizing out of your vocabulary,bring awareness how often and the reason we say sorry so much.Hey Ladies, why are you apologizing for needless issues?Starting or finishing your sentence with “sorry”. Sorry can I ask you a question” Sorry can yourepeat that? Sorry I was on mute”.Apologies are confidence killers.  We discuss alternatives to saying “sorry” Thanks forwaiting, Thank you for your patience.Prof Maja breaks down many of the areas women struggle with and suggestions to workthrough them from Imposter syndrome, perfectionism, confidence and much more.Tune in and say goodbye to over apologizing.[2:36] Prof Maja’s background and curiosity that led her to study sociology[ 5:40] Internal barriers of self-doubt, second guessing ourself, minimizing our experiences,downplaying our accomplishments[7:12] Why are women apologizing so much?Men have a super high threshold of with they deem worthy as deserving an apology[10:22] How others perceive us when we say sorry for unnecessary, small things.1) Not confident, insecure, doubtful2) Incompetent3) Weak, passive, not leadership material, “people pleasers”4) Former apologizers, we see ourselves in them, “common humanity”[11:42] Genuine apology vs unnecessary apologizing, why we throw it in as a filler word[14:42] How apologies plant a seed of doubt in your audience’s mind[17:41] What can we replace “sorry” with? “ Thank you, Excuse me or allow for silence[23:50] Feminine modesty- under represent or downplay our accomplishments, the need tojustify our accomplishments by luck, timing, right person right term etc.[26:39] Definition of humbleness- having or showing a low estimate of one’s own worth orimportance[31:34] How to teach and influence gender equality from a young age[33:42] Dr. Valerie Young, Imposter Syndrome expert, The 5 Competency LevelsThe most primary one is The Perfectionist; it focuses on how something is done. Flawlessnessvs excellence, unrealistic expectation that will set us up for failure[40:18] How can we destigmatize our relationship with failure? How can we recognize failure is normal, it is part of the process, avoid ruminating and dwelling on it.[44:45] Automatic negative thoughts[46:43] Linking an accomplishment to a personal characteristic, prevent yourself from tying it to good luck, right timing etc. own your accomplishments[52:09] Self-compassion vs your inner critic[53:44] How mindfulness can help us interrupt our automatic negative voice[57:58] Demystify confidence myths, confidence is a skill. Take action first and the confidentfeelings come much later. Get out of your comfort zone on a regular basis and that is how youbuild confidence. It is a muscle that strengthens with use.JOIN THE MOVEMENT ������������Website ▶ www.professormaja.comInstagram ▶ www.instagram.com/professormajaTwitter ▶ www.twitter.com/professormajaFacebook ▶ www.facebook.com/professormajaLinkedIn ▶ www.linkedin.com/in/professormajaProf Maja Ted Talkhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8sYv_6uyssSubscribe, Leave a comment, and review of K2 Sales podcFor more content like this, join hundreds of other subscribers to The K2 Sales Academy. Our subscription based on line sales training platform. $495/year unlocks the Fundamentals of Sales program with built in knowledge checks, resource folder with scripts, templates and checklists as well as regular webinars. 1:1 and group coaching packages available as well. To access our free one week Trial visit The K2 Sales Academy