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Listen "198 | the role of parents as co-regulators for autistic children with Lisa Candera"
Episode Synopsis
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this episode, Dr. Tay emphasizes the importance of supporting parents in the autistic journey. Joined by Lisa Candera, a single mom and coach for parents of autistic children, they discuss the role of parents as primary co-regulators for their children as well as strategies for staying regulated, building self-trust, and supporting their children's behaviors. They also explore systemic issues, coping mechanisms, and the need for a holistic approach that includes listening to autistic voices. Despite the focus on parents, the core message underscores the importance of a balanced support system for the entire family unit.00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:28 Lisa Candera's Background and Passion00:45 The Role of Parents in Autism Support01:28 Podcast Introduction and Disclaimer02:30 Lisa's Journey as a Single Mom05:25 Challenges and Early Diagnosis06:48 Navigating Resources and Support Systems08:27 The Importance of Parental Education16:04 Understanding OCD and Autism22:59 Coaching and Self-Regulation28:21 Understanding the Distinctness of OCD28:30 The Complexity of Compulsions29:01 Parental Instincts and Fix-It Mode29:31 The Illogical Nature of OCD30:06 OCD and Autism: The Just Right Feeling31:22 Building Acceptance in Parenting32:22 The Psychological Definition of Acceptance33:46 Behavioral Issues and Parental Pressure35:05 Supporting Parents: Tips and Strategies37:24 Validating Experiences Before Problem Solving38:01 Common Challenges and Seeking Support39:21 Navigating Grief and Acceptance40:02 Ambiguous Grief and GOMO41:17 Being the Safe Person and Self-Advocacy44:31 Parental Regulation and Child's Behavior46:36 Building a Well-Rounded Support Team48:29 The Power of Tone and Voice52:12 Conclusion and Resources RESOURCES⚡️ Continue learning from Lisa Candera at theautismmomcoach.com/ and @theautismmomcoach on Instagram and Facebook⚡️ Download the Meltdown Action Plan⚡️ Join EVOLVE: The Membership — a neurodiversity-affirming space for parents to find community, support, and ongoing learning on this journey.⚡️ Learn more about Dr. Tay’s Whole Family Approach + current services at drtaylorday.com⚡️ Continue learning + submit questions for future episodes:Instagram → @the.dr.tayTikTok → @the.dr.tay
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