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Listen "Redefining Success During Life’s Biggest Transitions (Live Coaching with Kasia)"
Episode Synopsis
In this powerful live coaching session, Lisa works with Kasia, a former client who is navigating pregnancy in her 40s while running a successful coaching business. This conversation explores the profound shifts that come with major life transitions and how our definitions of success must evolve with us.
Key Topics Discussed
The Reality of Pregnancy vs. Expectations
How pregnancy can shatter our carefully constructed ideas of how life "should" go
The guilt that comes when reality doesn't match our dreams
Learning to hold multiple truths at once: excitement and regret, joy and burden
Redefining Success
Moving from external metrics (revenue, client satisfaction, stability) to internal states
Key insight: "Success isn't a measurement - it's a feeling you get to embody"
Success as an identity and internal state of being rather than external achievement
Value Beyond the Dollar
Recognizing inherent worth that isn't tied to income generation
The unpaid labor of motherhood, partnership, and family building
Standing in your power when financial contributions shift
Navigating Partnership During Transition
Having difficult conversations about expectations and contributions
Moving from 50/50 thinking to understanding natural ebbs and flows in relationships
The importance of negotiation and honest communication
Conflict Avoidance Patterns
How childhood experiences with conflict shape adult behavior
The difference between actual conflict and perceived judgment
Learning to trust your ability to navigate uncertainty
Key Takeaways
Surrender as Practice: Major life transitions require us to practice surrender at levels we've never experienced before
Internal vs. External Judgment: Often the harshest judgment comes from within, not from others
The Value Question: Ask yourself and your partner: "What would you pay me to be a mother to your child?"
Presence Over Productivity: Some seasons of life call for being rather than doing
Relationships as Long-term Reciprocity: Healthy partnerships aren't tit-for-tat but involve carrying each other through different seasons
Reflection Questions
Where in your life are you trying to avoid conflict that may not even happen?
How are you defining success, and is that definition serving you?
What would change if you truly believed in your inherent worth, separate from what you produce?
How might you honor the season of life you're in rather than rushing to the next one?
Connect with Lisa
Website: [lisacarpenter.ca]
Instagram: [@lisacarpenterinc]
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear these insights about navigating major life transitions with grace and self-compassion.
Key Topics Discussed
The Reality of Pregnancy vs. Expectations
How pregnancy can shatter our carefully constructed ideas of how life "should" go
The guilt that comes when reality doesn't match our dreams
Learning to hold multiple truths at once: excitement and regret, joy and burden
Redefining Success
Moving from external metrics (revenue, client satisfaction, stability) to internal states
Key insight: "Success isn't a measurement - it's a feeling you get to embody"
Success as an identity and internal state of being rather than external achievement
Value Beyond the Dollar
Recognizing inherent worth that isn't tied to income generation
The unpaid labor of motherhood, partnership, and family building
Standing in your power when financial contributions shift
Navigating Partnership During Transition
Having difficult conversations about expectations and contributions
Moving from 50/50 thinking to understanding natural ebbs and flows in relationships
The importance of negotiation and honest communication
Conflict Avoidance Patterns
How childhood experiences with conflict shape adult behavior
The difference between actual conflict and perceived judgment
Learning to trust your ability to navigate uncertainty
Key Takeaways
Surrender as Practice: Major life transitions require us to practice surrender at levels we've never experienced before
Internal vs. External Judgment: Often the harshest judgment comes from within, not from others
The Value Question: Ask yourself and your partner: "What would you pay me to be a mother to your child?"
Presence Over Productivity: Some seasons of life call for being rather than doing
Relationships as Long-term Reciprocity: Healthy partnerships aren't tit-for-tat but involve carrying each other through different seasons
Reflection Questions
Where in your life are you trying to avoid conflict that may not even happen?
How are you defining success, and is that definition serving you?
What would change if you truly believed in your inherent worth, separate from what you produce?
How might you honor the season of life you're in rather than rushing to the next one?
Connect with Lisa
Website: [lisacarpenter.ca]
Instagram: [@lisacarpenterinc]
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear these insights about navigating major life transitions with grace and self-compassion.
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