In this episode, Sam sits down with Lindsey Metselaar, host of the popular dating and relationships podcast We Met at Acme. They talk alllll about the state of dating in 2025, from Lindsey's dating "rules," to the impact of technology on dating, to dating while sober, love languages, attachment styles, situationships, and beyond.



Listen to this episode if you are single and dating in 2025, or if you're in a relationship and want to set yourself up for success.



Key moments:00:01:33 The story of how Sam got her raspy/low voice lol (this went viral on TikTok)

00:03:21 How Sam and Lindsey met

00:05:16 How Lindsey became a dating expert

00:07:48 Lindsey’s rules of dating (don’t text “thank you” after a date!)

00:11:33 How many dates you should wait to sleep with them (according to Lindsey)

00:13:15 Why you should have no more than 2 drinks on a first date

00:13:29 How and why you should try sober dating

00:15:49 The difference between drinking while dating vs. dating sober (Sam and Lindsey’s personal experiences)

00:19:52 Lindsey’s advice for dating sober

00:21:19 Dating and tech (apps, AI, porn, and more)

00:22:01 This Forbes survey showed 98% of people met dates online

00:22:41 How we can build our online profiles and social identities to optimize for dating success

00:24:16 How tech has influenced the dating landscape

00:25:51 Do dating apps actually work?

00:26:42 Hinge origin story (sorta lol)

00:27:29 Is dating tech making people bad at dating/socializing/flirting IRL?

00:28:12 Is technology affecting people’s interest in commitment?

00:30:44 Are you using AI to flirt by text? Click here

00:33:00 The quote that made Lindsey famous

00:33:22 Porn, OnlyFans, Instagram models, and more

00:35:54 The bottom line on tech and dating

00:37:56 The narrative around men online (i.e. man vs. bear)

00:40:09 Incels, incel forums, and Adolescence (spoilers!)

00:45:15 A shift in dating trends between 2024 and 2025

00:47:41 Therapy speak (gaslighting, narcissism, etc.)

00:48:01 Love languages

00:52:01 Attachment styles (anxious attachment and avoidant attachment)

00:54:08 Situationships and how to avoid them/get out of them

00:57:09 Setting yourself up to find The One

00:59:18 Girlfriend and wife (or partner) privileges

01:01:59 How to know if they’re The One

01:04:21 Setting your relationship up for a healthy marriage

01:05:55 What Lindsey wishes she knew when she was 25 and dating



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