Send us a textThere’s a quiet kind of exhaustion that comes from constantly trying to make yourself understood by people who are committed to misunderstanding you. You explain, clarify, defend, and prove — not because you’re weak, but because you ache to be heard.In this episode of Beyond Words, Najwa unpacks why explaining yourself to the wrong people erodes your dignity, pulls you out of character, and keeps you anchored in environments that dim your light. She explores the difference between explaining to connect vs. explaining to be validated by people whose minds are already made up.Through vivid metaphors and raw truth, Najwa offers a way out: to stop over-explaining, reclaim your energy, and redirect it toward spaces, people, and pursuits that see you without a fight.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That’s not even me… why did I go there?”—this episode will feel like a mirror and a hand reaching out to pull you back home to yourself.📝 Show Notes & Timestamps (for Buzzsprout “Show Notes” section)00:00 – The Cost of Staying Around the Wrong People Opening truth: the more you surround yourself with the wrong people, the more your dignity erodes.01:12 – Why We Explain Ourselves (It’s Not Low Self-Esteem) Exploring the human ache to be heard and why we shouldn’t shame ourselves for it.02:10 – The Problem: People Committed to Misunderstanding You How ego dynamics twist your explanations into proof against you.03:21 – The Cardinal Truth About Good Hearts Why kind people expect to be heard — and why that backfires in the wrong dynamics.04:20 – Living Through Your Truth Without Explaining The consequence: losing the people who need you to over-explain to stay connected.05:43 – Why Your Growth Scares the Wrong People How your evolution triggers ego and false superiority in others.08:00 – Recognizing When You’re Out of Character A sign you’re in the wrong place, not that you’ve failed.09:40 – The Futility of Explaining to People Who Already Know Reflective journaling prompt: “What is explaining yourself to someone who knows they’ve hurt you going to do?”11:52 – The Contagion of Environments A vivid metaphor about sickness and influence.13:09 – The Psychological Toll of Staying Around Liars How dishonesty around you causes chronic doubt.14:05 – A Gentle Wake-Up Call Najwa’s reminder of our shared humanity and inner voice.16:02 – Sitting With Pain Instead of Explaining It Away Recognizing when others’ choices reflect their character, not your worth.17:07 – Why Your Clarity Intimidates the Uncomfortable How purpose triggers avoidance.19:27 – There Are People Who Will Understand Without a Fight Flat-ground vs. uphill-battle relationships.22:49 – You Don’t Need to Earn Basic Human Respect Respect and dignity are inherent, not transactional.24:57 – The Sunny vs. Rainy Metaphor Proving your truth to people who already see it — and want to drain you.26:17 – Letting Bonds Break When Over-Explaining Stops Why guilt surfaces and how to reframe it.27:00 – Reclaiming Your Energy Redirecting everything you’ve poured into the wrong places.28:26 – 🌿 Words That Found Me Ali Ibn Abi Talib’s quote on never explaining yourself.29:32 – 📖 Words That Held Me From Sparks of Phoenix, p.130 — on gossip, silence, and standing in truth.30:47 – Final Reflection A powerful visualization of reclaiming your energy and protecting yourse

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