Blended families get judged. No doubt about it. The kids get judged, they come from a broken family, they are going to have issues in school, and in relationships in the future. And the adults do too. They didn't try hard enough in the previous marriage, they gave up too easily, or be careful around them. In this episode, Paige and Darren explore the judgment they have made and have been victims.Judging Divorced PeopleCommon JudgementsThey were selfishThey were bad communicatorsThey were lazyThey didn't put their kids firstThey didn't have faithPeople of Divorce carry the big "D" or "F" for failureDivorce is a scary thing. Many people want to steer clear of it for fear of it becoming their own reality.When Paige went through her divorce, so of her friends or their husbands were concerned about divorce being contagious.Darren felt the same way before his divorce and steered clear of divorcing couples.Having a friend or relative going through divorce increases divorce by 17% according to pew research.Being JudgedHow can a divorced person get through the stigma.We feel like we have to prove ourselves. People judge us before they know us.Divorced people just want to feel approved of and accepted by those we care about.What people think of you is none of your business. Anonymous in Artcle at the Huffington postWhen divorcing people start telling friends and family about their impending split, one great worry they have is, "What will people think?" Fear of criticism and the judgment of others abounds.Judging Kids of Divorce and Blended FamiliesKids of Divorce are brokenMental Health ProblemsBehavior ProblemsPoor Academic PerformanceRisk-Taking BehaviorsInstead of judging, have more patience, Give our kids the benefit of the doubt. Try to be understanding.Kids are navigating a lot. They are balancing two households. Maybe additional new parents or more adultsFinal Judgement and Immediate Judgement.Final Judgement means you write someone off completely.The immediate judgment gives the person the opportunity  be seen as who we really are.Lemonade Moment of the WeekStress filled weekend as Madeline prepares for her drivers test. She got it. Linkshttps://www.verywellfamily.com/psychological-effects-of-divorce-on-kids-4140170https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/contemplating-divorce/201101/what-will-people-think-when-they-find-out-im-divorcinghttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/5-things-i-used-to-judge-_b_6123356

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