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Episode Synopsis
Most of us have been brought up with 'all-or-nothing' thinking and don't even realize how much it's costing us.
Either you succeed or you fail.
If I'm right, then you're wrong.
You're either with me or you're against me.
If I get everything done on my to-do list I'll feel productive, if I don't I won't.
These are all examples of 'all-or-nothing' thinking and I'm sure you can think of a lot more. They're absolutes and they pretty much paint you in to a corner. They leave no wiggle room for anything else and create a lot of judgment of yourself and of others.
This podcast aims to explain why we think that way and shares three simple ways you can begin to shift that pattern of thinking.
Sure, sometimes 'either/or' thinking will get you where you want to go. But I'd argue, 'both/and' thinking opens you up to so many more possibilities.
Want to feel better faster?
Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!
https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter
How to Connect With Pamela:
-Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/
-TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
Either you succeed or you fail.
If I'm right, then you're wrong.
You're either with me or you're against me.
If I get everything done on my to-do list I'll feel productive, if I don't I won't.
These are all examples of 'all-or-nothing' thinking and I'm sure you can think of a lot more. They're absolutes and they pretty much paint you in to a corner. They leave no wiggle room for anything else and create a lot of judgment of yourself and of others.
This podcast aims to explain why we think that way and shares three simple ways you can begin to shift that pattern of thinking.
Sure, sometimes 'either/or' thinking will get you where you want to go. But I'd argue, 'both/and' thinking opens you up to so many more possibilities.
Want to feel better faster?
Grab my free guide: 4 Ways to Feel Better FASTER. Small, simple, strategies you can start today to feel better tomorrow!
https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/4waystofeelbetter
How to Connect With Pamela:
-Website: https://www.pamelahughescoaching.com/
-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHughesCoaching
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pamelahughescoaching/
-TikTok: @pamelahughescoaching
About the host:
Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.
This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside of me.
I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.
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