Beyond Boxes: A 37-Year Marriage Journey Through the Enneagram

23/06/2025 49 min
Beyond Boxes: A 37-Year Marriage Journey Through the Enneagram

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Chuck and Linda Lesem share their 37-year marriage journey and how discovering the Enneagram transformed their relationship by giving them a language to understand each other's patterns. Their story reveals how complementary personality types can create both challenges and beautiful balance when partners learn to appreciate their fundamental differences.• Chuck (Type One) and Linda (Type Two) met at a pizza parlor after a missed introduction• They navigated early relationship differences without personality frameworks for their first 20 years together• The Enneagram provided language to make conflicts "less personal" by understanding type patterns• Their different instinctual subtypes (social One and self-preservation Two) explain many relationship dynamics• Chuck brings structure, organization and stability while Linda brings relationship focus and "magic"• Their contrasting parenting styles created beneficial balance for their daughters• Doing Enneagram work together revealed new layers of vulnerability even after decades of marriage• Understanding personality patterns helps couples realize people aren't "trying to annoy you" but genuinely see the world differently• Both recommend couples learn the Enneagram early in relationships to navigate differences compassionately• Finding growth together while honoring differences strengthens long-term relationshipsLove is not about sameness, it's about understanding the beautiful and challenging ways we're different and choosing to grow together anyways.Are you curious about what your Enneagram is?Click here to buy the online Enneagram Test https://wendybusbycoaching.com/online-enneagram-testFor more Enneagram insights follow Wendy on Instagram @wendy_lifeandlove_coachwww.instagram.com/wendy_lifeandlove_coach/Are you ready to take the first step? Schedule a complimentary Discovery Session today!https://book.squareup.com/appointments/9v7sg3737x3zza/location/PEAP86T00HS9P/services