In today’s episode, Paula sits down with Sandy Newbigging, Therapeutic Coach, bestselling author, and former monk, who had to extricate himself from a cult, after 14 years. With raw honesty and deep self-inquiry, Sandy shares his profound journey of healing and awakening, shedding light on the hidden dangers of cult mentality, gaslighting, and narcissistic control.
Together, they explore the fine line between spiritual enlightenment and manipulation, the deep wounds left by trauma, and why true healing requires us to meet our pain with presence rather than bypass it. This grounded and compassionate conversation invites us to tend to our mental and emotional injuries with the same care as physical ones—offering a powerful perspective on transformation, resilience, and the freedom that comes from facing our deepest wounds.  
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Emphasising the need to reconnect with the physical body and the earth, the discussion highlights how modern life can lead to neglecting our physical existence in favour of spiritual pursuits. Engaging with nature and physical labour can foster a deeper connection to oneself.

The conversation sheds light on the characteristics of cults, including love bombing, gaslighting, and the us-versus-them mentality. It stresses that these dynamics can exist in various organisations, not just traditional cults, and can manifest in personal relationships as well.

The journey of healing trauma is crucial for personal growth and understanding. The discussion points out that unresolved trauma can lead to a distorted perception of self-worth and can keep individuals trapped in unhealthy dynamics, whether in cults or personal relationships.

The need for authenticity often conflicts with the desire for attachment and acceptance. This conflict can lead individuals to suppress their true selves to maintain relationships, which can result in feelings of shame and unworthiness.

The importance of combining therapeutic practices with spiritual growth is emphasised. True healing involves addressing inner injuries and traumas, allowing individuals to experience genuine peace and connection, rather than relying solely on spiritual practices that may bypass deeper issues.

BEST MOMENTS
"I decided to explore whether I had any trauma a few years ago. As I healed my trauma, certain things in the so-called 'spiritual community' stopped being okay for me."
"No one joins a cult, they join something good."
"The irony of it is that you can go around full circle back to, Oh, actually what I always was is actually really enough."
"If our authenticity ever threatens our attachment, our likelihood of being accepted, then our attachment will always trump authenticity."
"It starts with honesty. It's so fundamental because we're dealing with reality then."
ABOUT THE HOST
Meet Paula, the inspiring and grounded force behind a transformative Teacher Training Institute, where coaches and wellness professionals find their wings. As an entrepreneur, author, and speaker, she champions the fusion of science and spirituality. Drawing from thirty years as a Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, HR Director, Intuitive and Transformational Coach, Paula's mission is clear: to spark transformation within you. Whether you seek professional excellence or personal fulfilment, her guidance lights the path to your highest potential. Join the journey, where each moment is infused with the promise of growth and inspired living.
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