The 4 Tantrum Styles: Which One Are You (and How to Handle Meltdowns Better)

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The 4 Tantrum Styles: Which One Are You (and How to Handle Meltdowns Better)

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Understanding Your Toddler's Tantrums: Find Your Parenting Style"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!This episode was referenced for you to also listen to: What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes EverythingWhy Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do InsteadWelcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we tackle toddler tantrums and the different styles parents use to handle them: the fixer, the shusher, the avoider, and the controller. We discuss why these behaviors happen, what might be missing in each approach, and introduce the balanced parent style for a healthier way to manage meltdowns. We'll also reflect on how our own upbringing influences our reactions and offer insights to help you become more intentional and self-aware in your parenting. Don't forget to grab the free guide 'Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast' from the show notes.00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast00:22 Understanding Tantrum Styles04:02 The Fixer Tantrum Style07:45 The Shusher Tantrum Style13:01 The Avoider Tantrum Style15:13 The Controller Tantrum Style18:01 Becoming a Balanced Parent22:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!------------------------------------------------------Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course.  You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.Grab the  The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them FastCheck out the Transform Tantrums: A Listening Toddler In 7 Days mini-course!Join the Toddler Mom CommunityFollow me on Instagram @heatherschalkparentingWatch the YouTube channelCheck out the blog

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