Are we unknowingly sabotaging our own success and well-being by adhering to an unrealistic standard of perfection?   Today, Brooke Jean explores the intricate relationship between perfectionism and anxiety, particularly in the context of modern motherhood. She delves into how these two elements feed off each other, creating a cycle that many mothers find themselves trapped in. The more one strives for an unattainable ideal, the more likely they are to encounter anxiety and shame, ultimately undermining their own goals and well-being. Brooke draws from personal experiences and professional insights to illustrate this cycle and provides a compassionate guide to recognizing and breaking free from these self-imposed constraints.    Tune in to this week's episode of the Unperfected Pod and be empowered to embrace imperfection and redefine success in a healthier and self-loving way. [00:00 - 07:59] Introduction Catch Brooke Jean at The Unperfected Mama Meet Up! RSVP now at https://www.thedendenver.com/unperfectedmama  Brooke Jean describes the exhaustion of caring for her sick child while juggling work and family responsibilities, highlighting the messy life of a working mom She acknowledges that almost every mom experiences some form of anxiety, which is why she regularly incorporates anxiety-related topics and techniques in her podcast episodes Read The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris [08:00 - 12:46] From Survival to Self-Sabotage Perfectionism is often a trauma response rooted in fear, developed during early life as a survival mechanism This strive for perfection is frequently about seeking safety, love, and acceptance, rather than just being the best Perfectionism leads to a mindset focused on inadequacy, causing negative self-comparison and self-criticism The stress from constantly trying to meet unrealistic standards releases hormones that manifest as anxiety   [12:47 - 22:18] Caught in the Perfectionism Trap  Perfectionism leads to anxiety, creating a cycle of discomfort and self-sabotage Self-sabotaging behaviors often emerge as coping mechanisms for the discomfort caused by anxiety This cycle often results in a shame spiral, further exacerbating feelings of inadequacy. The pursuit of unattainable perfection can be inherently self-sabotaging and unsustainable Moving away from perfectionism involves awareness, self-compassion, and understanding the deeper needs driving these behaviors   [22:19 - 34:07] 5 Steps to Break Free of the Perfectionism Cycle Awareness: Recognizing the trap of perfectionism and its link to anxiety is the first essential step. Self-Compassion: Understand that perfectionism often stems from a survival mechanism or a trauma response, and treat yourself with kindness Rework Deep-Rooted Belief: Engage in activities like hypnosis, journaling, or EMDR to change the underlying beliefs of unworthiness and not being enough Habit Work: Replace perfectionism-driven behaviors with habits that promote joy, self-care, and enoughness Check out Atomic Habits by James Clear Redefine Success: Lower the bar for what success means, focusing more on what truly matters and less on societal pressures   [34:08 - 42:36] Closing Segment Brooke Jean advises opting out of the perfectionism cycle, managing anxiety effectively, and choosing a new path to success that values the present Build your mental health toolkit Watch out for the launch of their mental health membership in January 2024! Visit their website and follow them using the links below for updates. Tweetable Quotes:   "Understanding that you have fallen into this trap of perfectionism and anxiety out of survival, out of trauma response… There's something really innocent about that that deserves a lot of self-compassion. "  – Brooke Jean   "Our habits determine the quality of our lives." – Brooke Jean    "Can we collectively lower the bar? And not because we don't deserve greatness, we don't deserve abundance… But we all need to stop trying to do them all. You can lower your bar. You can downshift. Change the game, change the definition for success."  – Brooke Jean You can connect with Brooke Jean through her: Website: Brooke Jean LLC Facebook: Brooke Jean LinkedIn: Brooke Jean Twitter: Brooke Jean Instagram: @brookejeanunperfected LEAVE A REVIEW Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookejeanunperfected/ Facebook private group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/MLALTL Website: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/ Join us!  The Unperfected Mama Group Program  here: https://www.brookejeanllc.com/group-coaching   Get your FREE Anxiety Survival Kit: www.BrookeJeanLLC.com

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