A Secure Person Does THIS When An Avoidant Won't Commit

05/11/2025 12 min
A Secure Person Does THIS When An Avoidant Won't Commit

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When a Dismissive Avoidant pulls back or refuses to commit, it can leave you feeling confused, anxious, and unsure of where you stand. However, a Securely Attached person handles this moment very differently, and their response changes everything.
In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down how Securely Attached people respond when a Dismissive Avoidant won’t commit — and why it turns the dynamic in their favor. You’ll learn what emotional maturity looks like in action, how to communicate without pressure or people-pleasing, and how to back your needs while staying calm and confident.
You’ll learn:
✅ How Securely Attached people handle commitment delays with clarity and self-respect
✅ Why understanding different attachment style timelines prevents unnecessary pressure
✅ How to communicate needs without triggering defensiveness or withdrawal
✅ What boundaries look like when someone stays in the “gray area” too long
✅ How standing firm in your standards helps you naturally attract secure love
Episode Breakdown: 
00:00 – Securely Attached vs Dismissive Avoidant & Commitment
00:33 – The Unique Timeline for Each Attachment Style & Commitment
03:12 – What Would the Securely Attached Person Do?
04:36 – 7-Day Free Trial 
05:26 – Step 1: Let the Person Know How They Are Feeling
08:20 – Step 2: Follow Up With More Clarity and Specificity
11:37 – Conclusion
Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.
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