Listen "157. The Assertiveness Trap: Competence Over Noise"
Episode Synopsis
Episode Title: Description: In this episode, Mark Tilsher dives deep into the concept of assertiveness in leadership. Often mistaken for competence, assertiveness can either make or break your influence in a team setting. Mark shares personal anecdotes from his military career, backed by research and practical tips on how to harness the power of assertiveness to build relational capital and lead effectively. Key Takeaways: Understanding the difference between assertiveness and competence. How to manage conflict constructively. Building relational capital through effective communication. Real-world examples and strategies for military and civilian leaders. Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction 02:15 – The misconception of assertiveness as competence 07:30 – Personal story: Feeling left out and frustrated in military meetings 12:45 – Research insights on assertiveness and relational capital 18:20 – Practical tips for managing conflict and building influence 24:10 – Real-world examples from military and civilian settings 30:00 – Conclusion and key takeaways Keywords: Assertiveness, Leadership, Conflict Resolution, Relational Capital, Military Leadership, Influence, Communication, Team Dynamics, Mark Tilsher, Military Sherpa
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