Anxious attachment doesn’t always look how you think it does.It might look like being the fixer, the over-functioner, the one who’s “fine” until they’re not.In this deeply affirming episode, Lauren Dry sits down with Relationship and Anxiety Therapist Valerie Rubin to explore the roots and realities of anxious attachment style, and why so many high-achieving, emotionally intelligent people miss the signs in themselves.Whether you’re the one holding it all together or the one feeling like you’re too much, too sensitive, or somehow not enough, this conversation will help you connect the dots between your past experiences and your present patterns. You’ll also get practical insight into how to shift toward secure connection and emotional safety.You’ll hear us explore:Why anxious attachment often hides behind confidence, competence, and controlHow early experiences (even ones that seemed “fine”) shape our adult relationship dynamicsThe role of hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and codependency in attachment patternsWhat it really means to self-soothe, and why nervous system regulation is essential for clarity and connectionHow to stop outsourcing your safety and start building secure, grounded relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the emotional labor in your relationship, if fear of abandonment keeps showing up in subtle or intense ways, or if you’re simply ready to feel calmer, clearer, and more connected, this episode is for you.Resources Mentioned:Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriageFollow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dryFollow Valerie on Instagram @healwithvalListen to Valerie’s podcast: The Anxiety Recovery PodcastIf something in this episode hit home, please share it with someone you love, leave a review, or reach out on Instagram. I’d love to hear what lands for you.Big love,Lauren X

Ver todos los episodios