Nikki and Damaris dig into a listener question from Omar in Miami: How do I stop comparing my life—parenting, career, home—to everyone else and actually feel good where I am?

They get specific about the two flavors of comparison—what happens when you’re scrolling (the curated highlight reel) versus what happens in real life (the expectations we absorb from family, friends, and culture). Nikki and Damaris share quick self-check prompts—What emotion is this bringing up? Do I truly want that, or do I think I should want that? —and explain how answering them can immediately defuse envy and shame.

Then it’s practical strategy time. For social media, they outline simple boundaries: move the app off your home screen, set a daily timer, delete-and-redownload only when it’s “work time,” and swap default scrolling for low-stakes alternatives (a short article, a brain game, or simply…being bored). For real life, they unpack the “arrival myth” (there’s no single milestone that makes you feel finished), and talk about choosing a path that fits you—even if it looks different from the norm—without apologizing for it.

The throughline: gratitude that isn’t corny, just grounding. When you train your brain to notice what’s already good, comparison loses its grip. Expect honest stories, doable tools, and that best-friend energy that makes the hard stuff feel lighter.

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