We’ve all been there: heart racing, butterflies flying, brain writing rom-com montages after two cocktails and a good cologne. That spark? It’s fun. But it doesn’t do the emotional labour. In Episode 3 of Swipe Struggle Survive, we’re pulling apart one of dating’s biggest traps: confusing chemistry for compatibility.Host Mary Margaret gets real about the difference between tension and connection, and why romantic adrenaline doesn’t always lead to long-term love. Spoiler: the guy who gives you chills might not give you commitment.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why attraction feels like a high (and why it wears off)What emotional intelligence, kindness, and dependability actually look likeWhy "intensity" isn't the same as intimacyHow to tell the difference between early sparks and real potentialThe science behind why your brain confuses drama with connectionWith insights from experts like Helen Fisher, John Gottman, and Esther Perel, plus real-life stories (including the one with the jazz band guy who ghosted after 7 hours of magic), we’ll unpack how high highs often lead to low lows—and how steady, secure love is where the gold is.Think this episode is about “settling”? Think again. It’s about reframing. You don’t need to lower your standards—you need to raise your awareness. We’re talking about green flags: shared values, emotional safety, and someone who actually texts back when they say they will.So if you’re caught in the loop of “he’s amazing… until he disappears,” or you’re tired of shrinking yourself to be more “chill,” this is the clarity check you need.Chemistry gets you in the door, compatibility keeps you in the house.

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