Listen in as Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit down with Emil Harker, a respected therapist andtalented author, to give you some practical tips and tools for turning conflict into connection and closeness. By following a few powerful principles, we all have the ability to use inevitable conflict for good in our relationships.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Emil Harker?3:19 – Conflict is inevitable - tips for dealing with it in the moment5:40 – Handling situations so you feel good and your partner loves you more7:29 – Assuming good intent - hijacking the limbic system10:18 – They want to feel good, they want you to feel good, and they’re doing the best they can.13:34 – Really taking the time to understand your partner’s behavior15: 38 – Criticisms are a catalyst for conflict18:02 – Addressing criticisms by agreeing with the element of truth21:15 – Responding to attacks - criticism, questions, declarations, commands24:08 – “The Betrayed CEO” - how the fundamental attribution error hurts us30:23 – Bad things happen, how we handle them will either make or break us32:48 – Understanding the crap out of your partner - validating their emotional experience34:41 – Problems aren’t the problem, how we handle the problems are the problem36:15 – The process creates connection, not the solution38:20 – The key to a stronger marriage: develop the ability to seek, receive, and respond to feedback40:37 – Make your marriage a priority42:56 – Liz’s takeaway: conflict can either be constructive or destructive, it is up to us43:44 – Dave’s takeaway: Remember who your partner really is - find the message behind the messAbout Emil Harker:Emil has been doing therapy for almost 20 years. He is passionate about getting through the fluffy stuff to the real nuts and bolts that help people turn inevitable conflict into closeness. He has been on Channel 2 Fresh living program for over 10 years and is a frequent expert guest on podcasts, and radio and tv programs. Emil has worked with NBA, UFC, and NFL athletes. He has his own podcast called The Emil Show and his book “You Can Turn Conflict into Closeness” has been well received by professional therapists and couples alike.Emil Harker Links:- [email protected] https://www.emilharker.com- on social media @emilharker- podcast: The Emil Show- books: You Can Turn Conflict Into ClosenessInsights:Dave: When we view others differently, we start treating them differently. It’s a powerfulparadigm shift.Liz:Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

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