The hardest part wasn’t cancer. It was what happened when I got better.This episode is part two of my 10-year Diagnosiversary reflection series — but instead of revisiting the drama of diagnosis and treatment, we’re diving into what came after.I’m talking about the identity shifts, relationship reckonings, and cultural patterns I began to notice when the casseroles stopped coming and the celebration faded. We’ll explore why people rally when you’re suffering but sometimes disappear when you’re thriving, how childhood bullying for “shining too bright” shaped my adult relationships, and what I learned from both being on pedestals and putting others there.I’ll share why I threw myself a shimmering Taylor Swift–inspired anniversary party, the hard truth about sickness as currency for belonging, and the rebellious act of staying fully alive in a world that often only claps for your comeback — not your continued glow.Whether you’ve navigated illness, career shifts, or just the lonely truth of outgrowing old dynamics, this conversation is your permission slip to celebrate yourself in every season — no pedestal required.00:00 — A Decade Later: Picking Up Where Part One Left Off 04:49 — When Pain Gets Applause but Joy Gets Silence 05:54 — The “Bejeweled” Party and What It Really Celebrates 10:12 — The Old Bind: Belonging vs. Being Fully Myself 14:20 — The Pedestal Problem: Gurus, Gatekeepers, and Growing Pains 26:16 — Sickness as Worthiness and the Disappearing Act After Healing 32:12 — The Price — and Freedom — of Living Fully AliveIf this episode speaks to you, hit subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend Looking for more of where this came from? Subscribe and watch full video episodes on Youtube Follow Julie on Instagram @drjuliegranger for clips, bonus content, and updates throughout the week. You can also shoot her a DM to connect! Get a deeper dive on Sink and Swim topics by joining the email club Find out more about Julie's coaching programs at her website

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