TRANSCRIPT FOR EP 28:Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about GET RID OF FEAR. Our subconscious mind often makes us think that we should behave in a certain way. If we are not, then we must be doing something wrong. We have many fears inside us and we often use the money to buy security and get rid of our fears. Every time when we are fearful of something, we will use the money to pay as compensation. For example, a mother might worry about her children’s future, and she will hire many tutors to try to make sure that her children will learn everything, get good results in examinations, and eventually have good-paying jobs. For those of us who are afraid to be looked down upon by others, we will buy branded clothes and bags to accessorize ourselves.To make ourselves feel good or get rid of the fears inside us, we use money as a bridge to connect us to our inner securities. These are short term effects and will not last long. The more we fear, the higher the price we pay. When I started studying for my professional accounting diploma, I often imagined my life as an accountant. There are 3 levels in the certification. For the first level, there were 4 papers and I passed each paper easily. I was confident that I can definitely fulfill my dream of being an accountant. However, for the second level, I was unable to complete the last paper. Many thoughts came to my mind, I kept thinking about how much I have lagged behind my classmates, what will happen to me if I cannot graduate, what will my future be if I cannot be a professional accountant?I refused to give up as I badly wanted to become a professional accountant. I believe that by having the certification, I get recognition from others. I went for revision classes and retook the examinations over and over again. Even though my company was very supportive and gave me ample time to study, I still feel pressured as I could not pass the paper to progress to the next level. After several attempts, I still could not pass the examinations and it also affected my health as my mind was not able to concentrate properly. When I let go of the fear of not being able to become a professional accountant, I realised that I still can do a good job of doing accounts. I used to think that I need to have a certificate or become a professional accountant in order for people to look up to me. Hence, I spent thousands of dollars studying for the certificate, and retaking the exams, even sacrificing my health.If you can do it and you made it, it is great. However, if you really cannot make the mark, do not force yourself, We can still be professional in our own ways, with our abilities, and not be defined by the certifications we have. So I decided to take up the challenge of helping my sister and brother in law to look after their newly set up company and I do not need to get any certifications for that, as long as I can handle it by myself. I’m happy with who I am, even though I did not achieve what I wanted, that is to become a certified accountant. But I can still do other things which are suitable for me. Turn our fears into accepting who we are, it doesn't matter if it is right or wrong, your feelings are most important. To let ourselves feel secure, we often pay a heavy price for it. We need to go back to the root of the cause, our inner child, and follow your heart to be at peace with yourself. If you are always in fear and do not find out what is blocking you from moving forward, you will never be able to make improvements in your life. The same goes for your relationship with money, if you have many fears, it will prevent you from getting the wealth you want. If you want to talk about transforming your inner child, healing your relationships with yourself and money, connect with me through my Facebook and the link is in the show notes.Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/leeyongtehInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/d_t_l_y/Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/deon-teh-leeyong-573a0766/I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you CREATE YOUR JOYFUL SPACE.

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