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Episode Synopsis
Show Notes:
0:00 Do we need to allow ourselves to cross that line and then be willing to come back?
We need to admit that we experience the full range of emotions.
We need to stop trying to be perfect.
The respect is coming back from the wrongdoing, it’s not never doing wrong.
What about a cool-down period? Do we need to give it time before we try to repair?
Some of this cool down time is because I need time to figure out why I’m reacting the way I am. There are deeper issues I need to identify before I’m ready to respond.
10:00 Family storytelling
Kids love to hear the stories of our childhood because it helps them relate to us.
14:00 Desensitized by Punishment
16:45 Kids are People
18:50 Assuming Positive Intent
There’s an idea that kids are being malicious, and it’s a harmful assumption to make.
Like wanting attention isn’t a bad thing. And, it’s usually not that long they want it.
23:00 Why are kids bad at getting our attention positively?
Kids are great observers but not great interpreters.
We train them to stop asking for attention.
27:00 Giving Permission is a Huge Theme in our Work
29:30 Getting Past Unschooling 101
If you just think of unschooling as learning from life then the relationship becomes the most important part.
36:00 Can we control our kids?
40:00 Authenticity
Lean into the happy.
42:30 How can we cherish these times?
Retelling the stories, creating the oral history.
We have to be willing to repair.
45:00 Challenging the negative parenting narrative
0:00 Do we need to allow ourselves to cross that line and then be willing to come back?
We need to admit that we experience the full range of emotions.
We need to stop trying to be perfect.
The respect is coming back from the wrongdoing, it’s not never doing wrong.
What about a cool-down period? Do we need to give it time before we try to repair?
Some of this cool down time is because I need time to figure out why I’m reacting the way I am. There are deeper issues I need to identify before I’m ready to respond.
10:00 Family storytelling
Kids love to hear the stories of our childhood because it helps them relate to us.
14:00 Desensitized by Punishment
16:45 Kids are People
18:50 Assuming Positive Intent
There’s an idea that kids are being malicious, and it’s a harmful assumption to make.
Like wanting attention isn’t a bad thing. And, it’s usually not that long they want it.
23:00 Why are kids bad at getting our attention positively?
Kids are great observers but not great interpreters.
We train them to stop asking for attention.
27:00 Giving Permission is a Huge Theme in our Work
29:30 Getting Past Unschooling 101
If you just think of unschooling as learning from life then the relationship becomes the most important part.
36:00 Can we control our kids?
40:00 Authenticity
Lean into the happy.
42:30 How can we cherish these times?
Retelling the stories, creating the oral history.
We have to be willing to repair.
45:00 Challenging the negative parenting narrative
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