I spent years settling and making excuses for the experience that was my life. Until one day I realised that I was creating it all and I could therefore choose something different.I had low standards and was constantly making excuses for myself and others as to why I couldn’t do more, be more and have more.And as a result I received AVERAGE!Once I learnt this painful lesson I decided to not settle, to ask for more from myself and others. To do more, be more, give more and as a result my life experience radically changed.Here’s some common statements I hear all the time when working with Clients:“When we have the opportunity at night to connect, my partner spends all night watching tv or on the phone, but it's not that BAD"…"My partner is always working, comes home late and does very little around the house to help but it's not that BAD"…"My partner is reactive, quick to become angry and our fights almost end the relationship but it's not that BAD"…There is a common theme here, IT’S BAD!I get why you keep doing this, you love each other but you can't help but resent each other because your needs are not being met. You argue, you makeup but it just stays the same. You're overwhelmed and frustrated and this negative thought loop just keeps repeating.You're doubting whether you're making the right decision and scared if it's wrong. You're confused and you're just hoping he/she will change their ways.The distance between you feels so wide. The communication in your relationship is one sided and it feels like he/she doesn’t care at all.You feel like you are exhausting yourself with someone who is not pulling their weight at all.You keep thinking to yourself love should be enough. The fact that we have been together a long time should be enough.But it’s not, is it? Do you want to know why?The universe, God or whatever you believe in is literally delivering you exactly what you settle for.Every time you say "it’s NOT what I want" or "it's NOT THAT BAD"  you get more of what you don’t want.And you're repeating that over and over again. Does that make sense to you?It’s NOT THAT BAD literally means it's BAD period, and you don't know what to do about it so you're just avoiding it.Listen in as I share some practWork With UsReady to rebuild love, trust, and intimacy in your marriage? Join us at one of our next retreats or online events here: https://savemymarriageschool.com/events/ Free Resources: Download our free 5 Minute Coffee Check In: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/coffee-check-in Aston & Adam SimmondsInstagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds Instagram (Adam): https://www.instagram.com/adam__simmonds Listen to all episodes on Audio: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=3821f82764534c68 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 Watch all episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds Support the ShowIf this episode helped you, please take 30 seconds to leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps other couples find this support too: ...

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