In this episode, examine how our assumptions about our partner's behavior shape the emotional climate of our relationship. Often, we default to interpretations that paint our partner as careless or intentionally hurtful, which leads to defensiveness and distance. By learning to make generous, non-evil assumptions—like believing our partner is overwhelmed rather than selfish—we create more space for empathy, curiosity, and connection.



We cover topics such as:


We often assume the worst based on our own insecurities.

Generous assumptions reduce conflict.

Shift from “they’re against me” to “they’re struggling.”

Mutual generosity creates safety.

And more!




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