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Listen "Episode 149: Give Your Heart a Break with Some Emotional Rest"
Episode Synopsis
Do you ever feel completely drained after “being nice”?
If so, you might not need more sleep — you might need emotional rest.
In Episode 149 of Medium Lady Talks, Erin explores how emotional fatigue often hides in plain sight, especially for chronic people pleasers. She shares why people-pleasing is a constant leak on your energy, how it erases your sense of self in relationships, and why emotional rest is one of the most overlooked (but deeply necessary) types of rest.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
What emotional fatigue feels like (and how it’s different from mental fatigue)
Why chronic people-pleasing quietly drains you from morning to night
How to reframe boundaries as saying yes to yourself, not just saying no to others
Why emotional rest means giving yourself permission to not be emotionally available 24/7
The “Pause Button for Your Heart”: a 3-step tool to help you set down feelings that aren’t yours to carry
💬 Quotes from the episode:
“If you identify as a chronic people pleaser, that is a leak on your energy. And it is constant: it is there when you wake up and it is there when you go to bed.”
“A lot of people pleasers don't set boundaries because they think that saying no is mean, or hurtful. But I really think we can see our boundaries beyond saying no to others; more about saying yes to ourselves.”
“If you want to get emotional rest, you're going to have to give yourself permission to not be emotionally available 24/7.”
“What people pleasers do is they empathize so deeply it’s like they become the person they’re trying to keep happy and control. But you unintentionally erase yourself from the relationship."
💬 Let Erin know what “real rest” means to you over on Instagram @medium.lady—and share this episode with the friend who’s doing everything “right” and still wondering why she’s so tired.
This episode is part of our “Summer of Real Rest” series—time to call ourselves in to a true commitment to the soft work of feeling better one step at a time.
🧡 If this episode resonates with you:
Share it with a friend who needs a little extra encouragement
Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps more than you know
DM me on Instagram @medium.lady or tag your favorite quote from the episode
Subscribe for more real talk about building a life you love—one medium-effort step at a time
Looking for more support? Access exclusive content and mindful living tools on Patreon.
Join the conversation! Share one need you're naming today and tag @medium.lady on Instagram.
The series starts here! Episode 142
Don’t forget to subscribe! If this episode resonates, share it with a friend or leave a review—it helps others find the show!
Other Related Episodes (for your enjoyment):
Ep 144: Sacred Rest & Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith
Ep 145: Are You Proud of Being Tired?
Ep 146: When My Eye Stops Twitching
Ep 147: The Toxic To-Do List
Medium Lady Reads Episode 43 - Our Best Recommendations for Your Summer Reading Pile
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady
Email: [email protected]
Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify
Instagram: @mediumladyreads
#mediumladytalks #summerofrealrest #emotionalrest #peoplepleasingrecovery #burnoutrecovery #boundariesarebeautiful #softwork #selfcareforreal #emotionalfatigue #restmindset #podcastforwomen
If so, you might not need more sleep — you might need emotional rest.
In Episode 149 of Medium Lady Talks, Erin explores how emotional fatigue often hides in plain sight, especially for chronic people pleasers. She shares why people-pleasing is a constant leak on your energy, how it erases your sense of self in relationships, and why emotional rest is one of the most overlooked (but deeply necessary) types of rest.
✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
What emotional fatigue feels like (and how it’s different from mental fatigue)
Why chronic people-pleasing quietly drains you from morning to night
How to reframe boundaries as saying yes to yourself, not just saying no to others
Why emotional rest means giving yourself permission to not be emotionally available 24/7
The “Pause Button for Your Heart”: a 3-step tool to help you set down feelings that aren’t yours to carry
💬 Quotes from the episode:
“If you identify as a chronic people pleaser, that is a leak on your energy. And it is constant: it is there when you wake up and it is there when you go to bed.”
“A lot of people pleasers don't set boundaries because they think that saying no is mean, or hurtful. But I really think we can see our boundaries beyond saying no to others; more about saying yes to ourselves.”
“If you want to get emotional rest, you're going to have to give yourself permission to not be emotionally available 24/7.”
“What people pleasers do is they empathize so deeply it’s like they become the person they’re trying to keep happy and control. But you unintentionally erase yourself from the relationship."
💬 Let Erin know what “real rest” means to you over on Instagram @medium.lady—and share this episode with the friend who’s doing everything “right” and still wondering why she’s so tired.
This episode is part of our “Summer of Real Rest” series—time to call ourselves in to a true commitment to the soft work of feeling better one step at a time.
🧡 If this episode resonates with you:
Share it with a friend who needs a little extra encouragement
Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify—it helps more than you know
DM me on Instagram @medium.lady or tag your favorite quote from the episode
Subscribe for more real talk about building a life you love—one medium-effort step at a time
Looking for more support? Access exclusive content and mindful living tools on Patreon.
Join the conversation! Share one need you're naming today and tag @medium.lady on Instagram.
The series starts here! Episode 142
Don’t forget to subscribe! If this episode resonates, share it with a friend or leave a review—it helps others find the show!
Other Related Episodes (for your enjoyment):
Ep 144: Sacred Rest & Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith
Ep 145: Are You Proud of Being Tired?
Ep 146: When My Eye Stops Twitching
Ep 147: The Toxic To-Do List
Medium Lady Reads Episode 43 - Our Best Recommendations for Your Summer Reading Pile
Connect with Erin:
Instagram: @medium.lady
Patreon: www.patreon.com/mediumlady
Email: [email protected]
Explore more book-related content on "Medium Lady Reads." - link to Spotify
Instagram: @mediumladyreads
#mediumladytalks #summerofrealrest #emotionalrest #peoplepleasingrecovery #burnoutrecovery #boundariesarebeautiful #softwork #selfcareforreal #emotionalfatigue #restmindset #podcastforwomen
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